VPL, I wasn't directing my comments at YOU. What I said, exactly, was
"I keep opening this thread and closing it again. I can't think how anyone could think it was anything other than vile and disgusting to talk abut a child in this way or to use the word bitch to describe a child. But last time I suggested this on mumsnet, well, it didn't end well.
I can't see there's anything to be discussed tbh."
I stand by that post, completely, it is, imo, vile and disgusting to call a child a bitch or bastard.
And then
"And no, I don't think it is all about 'context and interpretation' - I think it's about poverty of language and vocabulary and poor parenting and laziness and it's just horrible."
I stand by that post too. If you want me to clarify, I will. I do think it's poor parenting to call your child a bitch or a bastard. I don't refer to my children this way. I do think there are plenty of other words in the Engluish language to describe being angry, upset, sad, desperate, disappointed, at the end of your tether, bitter, hurt, crushed etc etc. I don't think using 'bitch' or 'bastard' shows great language skills, no. So I would argue that we're talking about poverty of language and vocabulary and...laziness - of vocabulary. So what I meant was, I consider it lazy if someone can't be bothered to find another word that conveys what they might be feeling and resorts to insulting adult language to describe a child.
Like I said, I've had this discussion before here and it didn't end well but hey, this is a parenting board, some of us are bound to have strong views about parenting and what constitutes good and bad parenting, that's fair enough!