Me and DH both work full time. I spend slightly more time with the DC about two or three hours in the morning and usually a few hours just me and them on weekends.
DH has a much more extreme approach to parenting. Lots of
Mad really fun games, not much disciplining with very occasional unreasonable outbursts of him getting really pissed off with DS.
I'm much less fun, do drawing, stories silly games etc but not cool ninja super hero etc. and am quite firm often but never raise my voice.
DS won't listen to anything I say and is throwing a lot of Wobblies. I just asked him to calm down because it's bedtime. Was in DD cot throwing toys out. I took him out and said come on now it's DD bedtime lets play calmly. He went spare screaming for DH (not here) and won't talk to me. He went to his room, I gave it a few mins and said calmly come on get your pyjamas on and once DD is in bed we can play snakes and ladders together (fav game). No dice, just moaning and crying and doesn't want to do anything and just wants DH, occasional 'not fair'.
He is recently 4.
I usually don't pander and just ignore when he is like this with intermittent trying to talk calmly to him.
This is quite a good example of or standard relationship at the moment.
I feel very sad because he likes DH so much and not me. Which I know is pathetic and it doesn't really mean anything. But I need to figure out how to handle this and don't know where to start.