any ideas on disciplining wild 4yr old!

[RebeccaRHY1]

So my toddler has recently become quite a handful.
In honesty hes always been a handful! He struggles to sit still or concentrate, is always talking, laughing, joking.
At nursery the teachers love him. Hes very bright and well liked amonsgt his peers. He loves nursery and theyve never mentioned any problems.
Recently, he is pushing his boundaries more and more.he finds it funny to disobey my requests. The harder i get with him the more he gives me back. I dont want it to turn into constant power struggles. Any ideas how to get him respecting what i say more!?!
He says awful things, to get a reaction i guess. I ignore him or simply tell him its not nice!? And i dont like to hear him talkig that way. Should i be telling him off more for this!?

I'd make a distinction between annoying and dangerous. Annoying is distraction / silliness / races etc. Dangerous is a 'stop!', and if he can't stop straight away, he needs to go to his room until he can play nicely again. That way, any fight about going to his room is only over serious issues. And I wouldn't fight about going to his room / staying in time out, if he won't leave the room then you can instead.

In a dangerous situation Or if he hits of pushes his brother over or something it is straight to his room. I hold the door shut and hes thrashes it out in there until hes ready to apologise. The bad things that totally works for but is all the annoying boundary pushing behaviour that im finding so draining. I agree with all your points and i do most of them to be honest. He just seems none stop. I tell him not to do one thing he starts something else he shouldn't do. I just feel like
Im constantly getting at him and he's constantly trying to get a rise from me. To be fair the threats to hit me he never follows through with he knows not to. And he is very into superheros and power rangers at the minute. I guess some children are just more hyper than others. I think as its winter and freezing and raining at the minute weve not been out and about as much as we normally are. So maybe hes feeling a but if cabin fever too. he most defiantly needs to be out exploring and running his energy off in environments without so many restrictions. Hes alot happier when hes done something fun and interesting

And kiki you dont sound like a kid hater at all! You have some very valid points! I complete agree with you that children need to know whos boss and they need boundaries. How can we expect them to behave if we dont tell and show them what are expectations are!