anyone had a 11-14 month gap between dcs?

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a friend of mine has just discovered she is pregnant but cos she is breastfeeding isn't entirely sure how far gone she is. she has got a scan next week but if she is 5 months gone probably won't be that accurate on the dating front. anyway ds is only 5 months old so she knows she can't be more than 5 months gone at the most, but could be anything from 3 months. basically she is terrified of having another baby so soon and thinks she will become a terrible mum because of it. is it really that hard or sometimes is it okay - what are your experiences?

wewish, it's not you is it? just wondered because you asked me about my age gap on another thread?
Really and truly, it will be fine...

I have an 11 month gap between dd2 and ds1 - in fact ds is having his 4th b.day tomorrow, dd will be 5 in Jan - so they were both born in 2002!

I also had dd1, who was 2 at the time I found out I was pg again so quickly. I also worried like mad, whenever I tried to imagine how life would be once ds was born I couldn't - I just had that sick in the stomach feeling. However, you cope with what life throws at you there have been as many advantages as dissadvantage but overall it was very hard until around the time the youngest one was potty trained and the buggy went to the tip.

I wouldn't ever say I regret having my son, our family would be much less rich (not financially of course) without him and I doubt I would have gone on to have a third, so overall I'm very pleased.

my boys are 14mths apart and its fab
thay are 9 and 10 now
hard work at first as double nappies, double pram etc but the children get on with it with no worries

i have the same gap as glassofwine between my ds1 and dd1-dd1 was 8 last week and ds1 will be 9 in jan,they were both born in 1998.its hard work but i think having twins would be harder-at least an 11 month old (usually) sleeps all night,can feed him/herself to an extent etc.
then when they get older there are less fights about what to watch on tv,they like the same sort of toys etc etc.
dd2 is 1 now and im expecting dd3 in march so the small age gap cant have been that bad...or ive just forgotten

no no not me!! that's why i was asking on the other thread - for my friend.

how is your friend? Has she got her dates confirmed yet?

no the scan is next week. sometime between xmas and new year i think.

my eldest two are 12months apart in age. This was great when they were little, joint sleeps, feeds, double buggy etc., but as they got older it was harder. Two to pay for at nursery at the same time, fighting over the same toys, wanting the same friends round after playschool but won't share them, and being in a different place at the same time eg. beavers and brownies!
But now they are even older it is really good again, they are quite good friends now!

There is 11 months between my two. I spent the first 5 months in a haze. DD was a very difficult newborn, and cried a fed constantly and I felt so guilty that I couldn't give DS the attention he deserved (he was still my baby too!)

It has got a bit easier now they are 19 months and 8 month, though I'm forever shouting out 'Watch the baby!' as DS stumbles about the place. DD is a lot more placid now and they are actually quite good playmates and can entertain each other while I have a quick cup of tea lol.

Forgot to add, I can never get them to nap at the same time though. How people can do this with their children will forever remain a mystery to me.

15 month age gap between mine and although it was hard at first - they play together now (at 2 and 3) more than most siblings I know becuase they have more in common. Best of all I did eventually get them to nap at the same time for up to 2 hours - took several months of adjusting routines, but it was fantastic - encourage your friend to try as the break from them both was much needed for me.

11 monthe between dd2 and ds1, and dd1 was 23 months when dd2 was born (bit traumatic as dd2 had a twin who died at 24 hours). It was all a but mad for a few years but they are great now on holiday (now, 12 11 and 10 but dd1 nearly 13). Now just have dd3 at home all day(nearly 3) and life is much easier!

well she went for the scan she is due in 5 months