she's 6 and 1/2 and I can't seem to stop myself getrting angry and grumpy with her. she doesn't really do anyhting wrong except she doesn't do as sh'e told, you have to tell her a few times. Also if ytou say can you do x? she say 'I'll just do this' instead which is always an easier thing to do which doesn't end up with the result I was asking for in the first place. she constantly talks about nonsense which I guess is age related but why can't I find it in me to listen and interact with her, most of the time I want her to shut up and go away. she doesn't eat well at all, I can get her to try some things sometimes but as soon as it's in her miouth she wails I don't like it about every single thing she has ever tried thats new. I feel lke I am expecting too miuch from her but don't know how to stop. I watch programs like 'honey we're killing the kids' and 'house of tint tearaways' and everything they say makes sense but why can't I do it. One thing that I had started to think I should try was having some structured on to one time with her but don't know what we could do together, though cooking classes might be an idea but would have no clue where to find some. I don't like feeling like I would rather be with dd2 than dd1. I had severe PND after she was born and I'm not sure if that has something to do with anything. I know I screwed her up on the feeding side of things but now I don't know what to do to help her. I get angry when she says she's starving and then hardly eats what I give her (even if it's something she loves) she takes hours to eat anything. I know that it's not helping to get angry but I cqan't seem to help it, I don't have an action plan to use with her eating so that I can just breathe and carry out the plan IYSWIM
I really want to improve our relationship but I need strategies to cope and I have no idea where to start
I am THE most disorganised person in the world which she has learnt from me but for some reason her inability to remember what she needs dfor school or to put anyhitng away angers me. she also ALWAYS says 'I forgot' as if that excuses everything
like 'what did you have for lunch today?' I forgot
I asked you to put that away, why haven't you? I forgot
2 secs after I tell her to stop yanking dd2 around, 'I told you not to do that' I forgot
She forgets to wipe her bum and has skid marks all the time, not sure how to combat that one.
there is no routine in our house and I know thats not helping but I feel like I need someone to hold my hand and help me find and stick to a routine. there has never really ever been any discipline in th ehouse either . when she was about 3 she started misbehaving and I did the count to 3 and then you lose a toy thing. she lost a toy for a wekk once and then I never got past 2 when eevr I had to count again. Now I don't know how to discipline her never listening and 'foirgetting'
aaaaagh sorry , if you got this far, you deserve a medal, thanks for listeniong, sorry for the typing and merry xmas to all