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Nativity horror looming. Help!

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Spidermama · 13/12/2006 23:04

DS2, who's 6, is doing his nativity play tomorrow. The thing is dd1(8) and ds3(4) have temperatures tonight and will be off school tomorrow. I can't take them in. I have no-one to look after them.

But ds2 will be gutted if I miss his nativity play. Personally I wouldn't mind missing it as it's not much fun with ds4 on my knee in a hot and stuffy gym hall, with little consideration given to the comfort of the audience anyway.

What would you do?

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QuootiepiesChristmasName · 13/12/2006 23:05

Try and go... is there really no one at all to look after them?

Jimjams2 · 13/12/2006 23:07

Happened last week to me- I kept ds2 home (!). Although he had been told by doctors to rest himself (he had a bad leg), The leg was actually better that day, but I thought if I sent him in and then missed it (ds1 was ill) it would be even worse!

bauble99 · 13/12/2006 23:07

Go. Even if only for a little while. He'll just want to look out and see mummy in the crowd, that's all.

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Jimjams2 · 13/12/2006 23:09

But how can she go if she has nowhere to leave the poorly children?

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Spidermama · 13/12/2006 23:09

I know bauble but what about the sick ones? Can I leave them home alone?

There's really no-one to look after them as all my friends have kids too. And both grandmas are distant and useless.

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CountTo10LordsaLeaping · 13/12/2006 23:12

What time is the nativity? Do I remember correctly that you live in the wycombe area or is that someone else?

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Spidermama · 13/12/2006 23:14

No I'm bion Brighton. The school is five minutes up the road. I'd have to drag two feverish kids and a baby to the school. It would only be for an hour but by God the hour would cost us all dear wouldn't it?

How devastasted will he be if I can't go I wonder? He hasn't got a speaking part.

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bauble99 · 13/12/2006 23:16

Are they 'walking wounded' SM?

I may be a cruel mummy, but can you Calpol them up enough to be able to go, even if just for half an hour?

If DS2 sees you're there, he won't be worried how long you're there for,IYSWIM.

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Spidermama · 13/12/2006 23:21

I think I'll dose 'em up and take them.
Cat dh is leavin' on a jet plane tomorrow. I really don't think there's anyone I could ask. They'll have to manage. Obviously it's be a real blast with two ill kids and a thrashing baby on those tiny childrens seats. I wish I could dose myself up too.

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CountTo10LordsaLeaping · 13/12/2006 23:22

Oh sorry sm I thought i might have been able to nip in and sit for you for an hour. It's horrible when this kind of thing goes on. If it was me I would see how the other two are in the morning and if you can calpol them up and they can cope with half an hour take them along or see if there is anyone you can think of who would sit with them for an hour. Other than that I don't think you've got a choice if the other two defo can't go out but see if you can find one of the other parents to film it for you. I know its not much help. I hope it all works out.

chocolatequeen · 13/12/2006 23:24

Will think of you. I´m going to see DS1 perform as a sock tomorrow. With wiggly, but hopefully well DS2 on knee. In hot stuffy hall trying to smear parent in front with sodden digestive. Yes yes. If I had calpol, I´d be first in the line......

bauble99 · 13/12/2006 23:24

SM. Get there and wave so that he knows you're there. He'll be chuffed. If you leave after that, he won't mind. It's the initial sighting of you that matters, IME.

pablopatito · 14/12/2006 11:57

Having your two sick children sitting in a hot stuffy room for an hour can't be good for the health of all the other parents and kids who are hoping not to get ill just before Christmas though can it?

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KTreePee · 14/12/2006 12:13

Can you pop in for 5 minutes, leave the other children in one of the classrooms/office so that he sees you have been? Otherwise you could always lie and say "Oh didn't you see me waving at you, I was right at the back?"

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Spidermama · 15/12/2006 11:39

I went and it was pretty bad. A hot, stuffy gym hall with competitive parents thronging to get into positition to photograph the play, like paparazzi. My 23 month old in violent, shouty mood, my 4 year old coughing like he was barking in a TB sort of a way and all of us being expected to sit on tiny chairs. I had to bf the 'baby' throughout to stop him ruining it, letting my flab hang out for all to see (hadn't thought through the clothing issue) and my ds hardly knew any of the words.

BUT it was still well worth going. The play was lovely and I welled up despite all the material obstacles to emotional connection and my ds - even though he was rubbish in the play which he warned me he was going to be - loved the fact I was there and we blew kisses at each other.

Ahhhh parenthood. It's never simple is it?

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DINOsaurmummykissingsantaclaus · 15/12/2006 11:54

I can never stop myself from blubbing a bit in these things.

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