Can't cope

[bingisthebest]

Don't know if this is the right place to put this.
But don't know what to do. I have 3 children 2, 5 and 6. But everyday is so hard at the moment. I feel like I can't cope with them. I have family and my dh is a good dad but when I tell him how I feel or he sees me not coping he says things like other people get on with it why can't you. I do get on with things but I feel all I do is referee my older 2 and I can't ever do anything with them because the little one is always whinging or wanting attention so even simple things like Lego with them is impossible. She now has stopped her daytime naps so we have lost that time. It is fine in the week when they are at school but weekends are becoming so hard I am starting to dread them. I don't know what to do. I love my family.

Being near children is nowhere near the same as looking after your own 24/7.

I did because my baby is asleep on me and I have nothing else to do at 6:45am. Plus it makes you look like a twat so that's going to always be a plus.

Some people don't have any experience with children before they have them. Does that make them worse for having them? You slam people for having an abortion so if they find themselves pregnant wtf do you suggest they do. You don't know how hard you will find something until you are in the middle of it. Now fuck off and go and find another forum to annoy.

No no no being near or looking after children is not the same as being a parent!! Absolutely not!!!

Personally I wouldn't let you any where near my child, if I had one, you clearly don't have a clue!

Op please ignore the troll.

I am in exactly the same position, similar ages too. You're not a bad mum. It IS hard, I agree with pps, divide and conquer, plan ahead, hey some activities organised in advance and most of all take it all at face value. You ate finding it hard because it just is bloody hard, it's not a reflection on some deeper meaning that you are failing.

Someone needs a smacked bottom.

OP, my mum had three of us under 3, and told me recently she used to go out and chop logs when it all got too much. You are so not alone, the early years can be completely thankless- hang on in there, it does get better, I promise!

Hahahaha abusing you?! You started this shit! If you can't take it don't dish it out.

Arkkrox, ignore, ignore, ignore. .

If you were half my age you would be 13 and you probably shouldn't be posting shit like this.

Off you fuck over to the thread about you then Yourusername the OP has been derailed enough.

Okay

Amazed to get back and find unpleasant posts to a very common problem- I assume that the the ones hidden are much worse.
Ignore completely OP. I was a teacher and thought 1 baby would be a doddle after a class of 30- how wrong I was! It is much different when they are your own and you don't get enough sleep and you don't get a break.
Take the proper advice, which is really all the same, get as much help as you can and try and separate part of the time.

Haha youusername telling people to stop being abusive telling people they shouldn't have kids is abusive and making them feel bad about not being able to cope is abusive! You were abusive first your username!

You really don't understand forums do you username. It's like a great big conversation anyone can reply to anyone!

Stop feeding the troll - ignore and report!

OP, I remember that age range being tricky for the same reasons you say. The youngest wanted to be involved in everything and always wanted my attention. I struggled to do homework or reading or give the bigger two any attention when I was alone with them. Me and DH worked together to make sure these things happened when he was about. The 'other people cope so why can't you' comment from your H is so unsupportive. They're his kids too, his family. He needs to help and support you!

This stage will pass though and it will get easier.

I can't think why you think we are remotely interested in what you have said, yourusername
I should go and get your amusement elsewhere.

Op ignore the obvious. This poster is saying horrendous things all over mumsnet.

Longdiling. Thkyou. It's nice to hear from someone who has been there. It just seems never ending and no-ones happy. I tried to talk to dh last nite but no joy as he just switches off when I am like this. I will try again.