Hi all!
I have two DDs with a 16 month gap. DD1 was fairly fussy as a newborn-never colicky, I didn't have it nearly as bad as friends whose babies had reflux etc, but not totally easy-just a typical newborn. I subscribed to an attachment parenting mindset at the time, and let her sleep on me during the day. She was always in a sling and rarely put down-never left to cry, even for a minute. She's always been in a Sleepyhead at night, didn't co-sleep as she slept through quite early on at night.
Following c-section 2 with DD2 (now 5 weeks), when DH went back to work, I had times where I wasn't able to have DD2 in the sling (got an infection in the scar which opened up), and she's cried in the cot/on the playmat while I've seen to DD1. She sleeps on me, but equally will put herself off to sleep if I put her in the cot. Sometimes, I've raced around seeing to DD1 and by the time I get to DD2 she's gone to sleep. After the amount of physical contact I had with DD1, I feel guilty all the time with DD2. I realise I'm probably being a hormonal lunatic. DD1 is as securely attached as can be-she's never had a clingy phase, goes to her dad/GPs without any issues. I've got it into my head that I'll turn DD2 into some sort of sociopath because she doesn't get spoken to/cuddled as much as DD1 did at this time.