feel like i am failing as a mother

[Zauberfee]

in addition to the nipple biting problem (see development section) I feel like I am slowly spiralling into becoming a failing mother. DD is 11months old and is a daddys girl. This is difficult for me to deal with anyway but now she's biting and scratching me,in the night she only wants to be soothed by daddy (now that is fine by me ). I am quite a resentful person and maybe she picks up on that. Also we're living with db parents at the mo as we're preparing to go away in our camper soon. this fuels arguments and I feel I am being pictured as highly strung and aggressive, because db and me have firy arguments and everybody gets involved.My family is in germany so in addition to everything I feel trapped cause I can't just go and see them for an afternoon. We're under normal circumstances a loving and caring family. But I just feel like I want to run away cause I don't want to fail. I see dd relationship with her daddy getting better and better and with me its getting worse. But everytime I go away from a situation I feel like I shouldn't, because she'll see and interact with me less and therefore becomes even less attached to me.
Sorry if this all sounds very complicated but I do feel quite down and db says not to have so much self-pity, so I thought maybe some of you could help me. x

I don't know if this is any help, but my DD went completely daddified from about 10 months - 15 months.... nothing to do with how I was with her, just who she wanted (hoping DS will catch on soon ) - I have it in the back of my mind that they all tend to do that, some nature moving away from the all important mother type thing (could be talking gibberish though ).

You just sound very stressed and under a lot of pressure "Its just a phase" is bloody annoying to hear, but it is true - keep repeating it to yourself

Give her a few months and Daddy will be pure evil and you'll be desperate to wee in peace

poor you ,so you have an infant who bites and scratches you ,your living with the inlaws and your stressed ,hardly suprising, i would probably be facing a murder charge now ,sitting in a nice quiet cell,so dont be hard on yourself ,is there any way you could get an afternoon or evening off by yourself ,its amazing how much better you can feel if you get a bit of unfettered me time

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yes, i think stressed is the right word! having to sort out all these things in front of ur mother-in-law (who has got a letting-go-complex anyway...having 5 children, the last one with 46!)is pure evil. She'e loving it, I think. Or maybe it's just me being evil.
Yes, I will take an afternoon off when DB is better, man-flu of all things, so two babies to nurse. Thank you, I feel much better now. It's just a phase, it's just a phase, it's just a phase...