Just not sure what to do with DS - he is so difficult.
He has just turned three. There are no development issues except maybe this! He never wants to use a potty or toilet. He has only ever sat on either for major bribery like being given a lollipop. He has never done either a wee or poo on one.
He wants to wear nappies but he does not want his nappies to be changed. Every nappy change is a fight to get him on the mat with lots of screaming throughout though he does lie there once there. (but I either have to carry him or majorly threaten him to get him there)
He wont tell me when he has done a poo and denies when asked. (He has gone thru phase of telling because he gets majorly praised but hes not telling at present) He has ended up at the doctors once due to terrible rash leading to infection so we tell him it is importamt that he tells us and is changed. He poos a lot maybe 3 or 4 times a day so that makes it even more difficult.
DD is 10 months and sits on potty and does wees and poos. She is so praised. He even praises her too!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But it seems to have little effect.
We have done sticker charts, offered different rewards including major bribery etc etc but it has little effect on him.
He is very strong minded and independent and he doesnt want to do it basically.
But it is making life very difficult for me.
Other threads have pointed out attention seeking and Im sure that there is a lot of this in his behaviour but dont know how to deal with it any better. He has to have his nappy changed and that is that. He is very happy with DD by the way - loves her so there isnt any unhappy relation ship there but of course her arrival has had effects on his life.
It has been pointed out to him strongly that if he would use the toilet he wouldnt have to have his nappy changed. But as per everything we have said to him he does nt care.
It is starting to spoil my previously very happy relationship with him so any help very appreciated