Hate being alone with baby

[ElleyBear13]

Hello all I'm looking for advice really. I have a lovely 2 month old ds i love being his mum but I find the days/nights when I'm alone the hardest, infact I'm really not enjoying it and I hate to admit it! I'm lucky that I have a husband whose working but he out the house from 730-630/45 five days a week and on sundays he sees his friends from 4-10pm. Twice a week i go to mum and baby groups which break up the day, and every day i pop ds in the sling and walkthe dog for at least two hours (ending up bf in the park!). I just can't stand being in the house alone esp when his colic starts i feel like he really hates being with me when i cant settle him.I used to paint, read and watch tv/craft but now it seems pointless and/or I can't concentrate on them long enough. I feel terrible as I'm so tired some days that I just take us both to bed and housework has started to slip. When he was first born I used to sling him and get housework/baking done, read etc but that initial energy and positivity has gone completely. Will it get better? I feel terrible as my son was so wanted after several mc and i have been looking forward to being a mum. Help!

I'd repeat loads of what pp have said but the other thing that helped me was I found our local council-run gym had a crèche.

I felt really guilty at the thought of "abandoning DD" to the crèche - maybe at the thought of needing to when the other mums I could see we're in awe of their babies and not wanting to miss a moment. But (after posting here and getting loads of support), I went for it.

I went a couple of times a week and dd was really fine in the crèche. The ladies who ran the crèche loved having a tiny baby there - she got loads of cuddles. I got a couple of hours to myself, started to get a bit of light exercise in and even uninterrupted showers!

It really helped me get a break during the week.

Do what you have to do. I promise it'll get loads better really soon. X

It's really tough, don't be hard on yourself. I used to dread DH leaving for work in the morning, on a few occasions even cried! What worked for me was breaking up the day into manageable chunks - it gets easier as they begin to nap at more regular times. So morning and afternoon basically. I had a little diary of groups on/baby massage/NCT coffee things etc - didn't go to all of them but for example I might go to one in the morning. Then afternoon - do a big walk with baby in the sling or pram, call in for a coffee somewhere while he slept (luckily he slept in his pram really well) then once back home it was downhill till bedtime. Not that I wanted to wish the time away but a day does look rather long when it starts at 6.30am! Does your son sit in a bouncy chair? I found it a godsend as I could just cart him around the house while I needed to do stuff and he watched me - in the shower/drying hair/washing the dishes/dancing like a loon to the radio... I think you can get really upright ones that help with the colic.
ps ignore your family and their comments about tidyness! They should know not to say anything, or muck in.

I'm exactly the same, could have written this myself. The first 2 months your in lala land just gazing at your baby and then the visitors die down, crying peaks so it's natural to feel stressed. It gets a lot better (so I'm told) when they can sit up and move around. It's a lot more fun, babies aren't for everyone and that doesn't make you a bad person. I can't wait until DS starts walking/talking. Hang on in there!

Oh OP Bless you! I felt/still feel exactly the same way! It is bloody hard. I Think we put pressure on ourselves to be this mother earth perfect being that when it becomes difficult we don't want to admit it. My daughter had terrible colic and reflux and would scream from 6 - 10pm. It got better at 12 weeks when i cut out dairy from my diet as she has a cows milk intolerance. But even now she is very 'whiney' and needs to be amused 24/7! She is 5 months so is starting to sit and rolls over effortlessly, but 5 minutes of ANYTHING will begin to bore her and she wants to move onto the next thing. I end up having to go out every day otherwise i will go crazy! I have to just go to the supermarket or just walk to the shops, i get cabin fever sitting in the house all day! It is all completely normal :D