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would you tell your teenager that you've tried drugs in your youth....

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brimfull · 04/12/2006 10:56

or do you think that's giving them the idea that you did so they might aswell try.

DD is very sensible and quite a straight-laced teen,nearly 15 yrs.She talks about people she knows who smoke weed and is frankly quite disgusted...phew!
Do you think I should open up and sya that I used to partake when I was a teen or not?

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NotAnOtter · 04/12/2006 11:00

yes - my son is the same age and i will admit to a bit of weed.....not sure about other bits!! tbh my alcohol consumption was far worse at university and i am more concerned about that!

Sugarfree · 04/12/2006 11:03

Hmmmm,it could work both ways that one.
a)God,if Mum did it,it must be way too uncool,so I won't bother.
or
b)Mum did it and she's alive and kicking(just) so it can't be so bad.

My ds1 is 13(on Saturday) and I haven't worked out what I'm going to say yet.I would be inclined to keep my mouth shut unless she asks you directly.Perhaps,maybe,dunno.

PinkTinsel · 04/12/2006 11:05

yes, we will be telling our kids so that when we give them advice about drugs they know we're not just being prudish parents but that we speak from experience.

honesty is the best policy, far worse if you lie and get mad at them if they experiment and then they find out you id drugs too. you'll never be able to say anything to them again without being told you're a hypocrite

Sugarfree · 04/12/2006 11:06

Dope just annoyed me tbh both times I did it and the second time it made me throw up for England. All that lolloping about being vague and giggling even when the logical part was saying"You know the word 'aspirin' isn't that funny,so stop bloody laughing.
Still not sure I would tell him unless asked directly,he would probably think lolloping and giggling would be terrific ansd throwing up a small price to pay.

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brimfull · 04/12/2006 11:08

I would never lie about what I've done in the past,but I do give advice and information about drugs to her,she hasn't yet asked about me and drugs.So far I've been telling her about my brother who used a bit too much and it did affect him mentally.

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expatinscotland · 04/12/2006 11:09

I smoked weed in my 20s - couldn't get hash in the US. Don't have a problem telling my daughters' that. Personally, I found the effects of alcohol far worse.

WonderCod · 04/12/2006 11:09

yes

zippitippitoes · 04/12/2006 11:11

I'd tell them before teens..even if it means they throw their hand in the air in school when they are asked if they know anyone who has taken drugs!

thebecster · 04/12/2006 11:11

My DS is only a baby, and I've already pondered this question! But I'm in AA & NA, so it's a bit different...

I plan to be quite honest with him about it, to spare him the gory details, but tell him enough to hopefully put him off going down the same road. But if there weren't any gory details (sounds like you just tried it, gave it up, no big deal) then it's trickier really... I do think honesty is better, but if there were no consequences to your actions and you don't really regret it, and yet it's still something you don't want your DD to do then it will be difficult not to send out the wrong message.

aDadOnTheXmasSherry · 04/12/2006 11:13

certainly wouldn't lie about it if they asked.

Difficult to know if/when to bring it up if not prompted though.

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brimfull · 04/12/2006 11:15

god still don't know,may just wait for her to ask me directly.
I'm sure I told her years ago but she seems to have forgotten.
Hope it makes her see it as really uncool.

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anniemac · 04/12/2006 11:28

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suedonim · 04/12/2006 16:41

It probably won't make any difference what you tell them. I told my dd the truth, which is that I've never done drugs, not even had a quick puff, and she steadfastly refuses to believe me!! She says because I was a teenager in the 60's I must have done drugs. Honestly, kids today....

flack · 04/12/2006 18:08

I would, and that's why I could say with confidence that it's nothing special and not worth the bother (weed, lsd, cocaine, speed, all sorts).

lou33 · 04/12/2006 18:15

i think i would talk about it when they were late teens if asked but not before

sallystrawberry · 04/12/2006 18:20

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mummymic · 04/12/2006 19:45

my ds1 (now 18) asked me whether or not i had taked them when they did drugs at school in pshe - i told him yes i had and what i had tried and the effect (both immediate and long term) - i also gave him a book to read - 'street drugs' - he has (to my knowledge) never taken drugs (but neither had i at 18!) and i think it did our relationship good to know that i was honest with him

7swansaswimmingup · 04/12/2006 19:49

yes ds already knows hes 12

Indith · 04/12/2006 19:51

I've always known that my mum tried (soft) drugs. Never felt the need to try them myself!

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