Please tell me two children will be ok!

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I have a 3 yr old ds and am 3mths pregnant, age 40 and in shock. Had a hard time with first at beginning and dreading another. Please tell me it will be ok!

It will be ok

Congratulations!

I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 3 month old. Second time round is definitely easier - you don't panic every time baby cries and have more confidence in your decisions.

Yes, it'll be okay.

I have 2 DC about 2 years apart. I found that dealing with a baby was definitely easier second time round, agree that I was more confident with DC2.

The tough bit was learning how to deal with 2 DC at once, because inevitably there were times when both of them were demanding my attention at once. That was very tough at first, but it's something that got easier as they got older.

Now DC2 has grown old enough to be a playmate for DC1 it's great, because although we get a share of squabbling, they generally like playing with each other and will seek out each other's company and often happily entertain each other.

It will be ok. I've got a 22 month old and a 12 week old and it's easier than I thought it would be (although it's early days!). When ds was born I swear we were keeping him alive through sheer anxiety and constant vigilance whereas we're much more relaxed with dd. I had a horrible birth with ds and a lovely one with dd, feeding ds was a nightmare whereas dd took to it straight away. The bf was definitely helped by having done it before. I struggle taking them both out on my own but I reckon it'll get easier as dds feeds become more regular and ds becomes more controllable bribable.Congratulations!

It will be ok. I had DD when I was 40 and DS when I was 44. Congratulations! and . No !

It will be ok. We are moving house at the moment and last night dd1 took dd2 upstairs and supervised teeth and hair brushing, read her a story and cuddled her and she went to sleep.

Generally they entertain each of a lot. And I love watching it.

Also, you just know what you are doing more when you gave a second baby.

IT will be ok.
Found out I was pregnant with DC2 at 38 DC1 was 4.
I freaked out did not want another etc etc. No plans, cried for eight months.
Babe arrived and it was such an easy love. I didn't doubt myself, worry I was doing something wrong. I just love being a mum again. Didn't realise we were missing anything until he arrived.
Congratulations and I hope you find it as amazing as we did. Our family is just right.

It will be ok.

You never have to have your first baby again. You know what you are doing and you have a big kid who is fun to be with - the baby just tags along cuddling and eating and pooing until big enough to join in.

It will be ok! And I say this as someone who struggled with my first and couldn't even think of having another for a couple of years.

Now DD is 4 and DS is nearly 1 and it's lovely - I've enjoyed DS so much more. Different mum, different baby. I found the lifestyle change was easier to adjust to as you're already adapted to having a child and you know that what you stress about at 6 months generally doesn't matter at 12/18/20 months.

My DD made my DS laugh today and then gave him a cuddle and it was the most amazing thing - when I was pregnant and stressed about how I was going to cope I never dreamed I'd enjoy it as much as I have. Good luck.

It will be okay. I have a 2.11 year old and a 12 week old. It has been easier than I expected (DD has been very good about him which has helped).
Number two has to fit in to a certain extent, you know what you're doing and understand baby cries a bit more, you have less time to beat yourself up over tiny things (sleep, feeding, whatever). It has it's moments of difficulty but it's generally pretty fun - honest - and going so fast!
Upsides for you is that your 3 year old will likely be toilet trained, you can reason with them to a certain extent at that age, they will watch a bit of TV if you need them to, you probably won't need a double buggy. You won't have two babies and that will make it easier.

Congratulations! You will be fine, your oldest DC is relatively independent at the age he is now and will be starting school next September I would imagine so he will be busy with doing his own thing in a few months time.
I had 3 DCs by the time the oldest was 3 1/2yrs. Two really is not too bad at all but you don't realise that until the third comes along!

Congratulations. It will be great!