eeek - am I an old prude to find this shocking?

[geekgrrl]

Dd1 (7, Y3) told me yesterday about all the 'fancying' that goes on between the boys and girls at her school, and that a Y5 boy keeps saying another one of the Y3 girls is 'hot and sexy'. (what's worse [and very sad] is that this girl is actually dressed to look 'hot and sexy', her 'school shoes' are knee-high high-heeled black boots for instance)
Then had to explain to dd1 what 'hot and sexy' means. Kind of difficult really!

I find this really vile. Glad no boy has told dd1 that he finds her hot & sexy - dh would be round there like a shot to have a word with the parents.

i blame it on the music, i remember my ds then aged 2 singing along to sex bomb! but now it is worse.. do i sound old fashioned, yup,

My 6 yr old goddaughter had some knee high boots with 1 & a half inch heels on them (wanted to be like her mum). They were ok, until she bent her ankle sideways as she couldn't walk on them. Still, she was allowed to wear the, then she fell down the stairs whilest wearing them & ended up with a nasty smack to the head. She is STILL allowed to wear them. It's not only damage to the feet, but even the small heel that she has can throw the spine out of it's natural alighnment causing probems in future years.

DD1 is 6 and in Yr 2 and plays kiss-chase all the time. (She chases the Reception boys as they are slower and she stands a chance of catching them .) She also talks about her 'boyfriends' (usually plural) and occasionally uses words like 'fancy' or 'dumped', though only in the vaguest of ways. A couple of weeks ago she had a friend round, and they were playing a game in which dd2 (4) was 'the boyfriend' (which she was going along with as she is a little tomboy)... until we heard dd1's friend ask her, casually: 'So, are we sleeping together?'. and double-. Again, I don't suppose she had a clue what she was really saying, but even so...

PS I am an old prude too! 100% prudery round the Ellbell house...!

i marched up to the DJ on a caravan holiday when my daughter was three because he was playing 'sex on the beach' as in ' i wanna have SEX on the BEACH!'. I was told that 'kiddies had asked for it' waaah!

heels, well - no, my daughter gets away with a inch - inch and a half heel in boots in winter, maybe wedges in summer, but they're chunky blocky ones, not kitten heels or stilettos or anything.

I do think children are sexualised earlier these days ( and now i sound like I'm 108, not 38) it's like make up on little girls, paris hilton as an acceptable role model (yuk!) the idea that you are who you are because of how you look or what clothes you buy - something that i basically frown upon. unfortunately a lot of it, i think is to do with little girls popular role models - singers/acteresses being marketed at two distinct audiences, pre pubescent teens and lads mag afficiandos. it's a difficult mix to carry off successfully.

i don't see a problem with primary children 'fancying' other primary children - it's ( in my experience) innocent until hormones kick in - I would have a problem with 'hot' & 'sexy' though.

oh yes, just to clarify, I don't find the fancying stuff vile (although on a side note I wish they wouldn't - it seems to cause so many problems unnecessarily. Dd1 can't even say that she feels sorry for a boy who's hurt himself badly in the playground without someone piping up that she's obviously in love with him, and the little boy in dd2's class [dd2 being the one with Down's syndrome] who really likes playing with her also now has the piss taken regularly and has started to keep away because of it ).

I did really wince at the hot & sexy comment and that's what I find vile.