Sick of being criticized

[frankiebuns]

Ok lot of winges im sorry im a mum of 2 ds 5 and dd 1 my ds has aspergers and can be a bit hard work and i messed up with daughters food (she has wheat allergy) my mum went nuts and told me i was usless and put my kids first not me i said it was a mistake and didnt mean to i left daughter with mum whilst i went into town to get ds birthday party stuff and i come home to her with blood on her face and with a pack of quavers (which i was what i had given her by mistake) i freak and she shouts at me and says im only human and not to go nuts. Double standards then my brother who is single waited on hand and foot by parents (hes 35) wades in and has his say saying im useless and dont do anything he knows nothing!! Im sick of the criticism and its affwcting my depression help

Aw sweetie you ain't useless! I've no experience of aspergers so I won't even pretend to understand what your life must be like.

The thing that jumps out at me most here is that your dd had blood on her face. What happened?

(Quavers was a mistake, easily done when things are chaotic. Bet you haven't don't it before and won't ever do it again)

Apparently she bit her finger and she wiped it on her face im falling apart my son rules the roost with his ways i am currently living at mums as something in our house spooked him and havent slept in the same bed as my husband since our wedding night in march! Its all getting too much

Is your dh living with you there? Sounds stressful, I also don't know much about aspergers personally, but about your ds ruling the roost with hes ways, I have heard fab things about the book 123 magic, for all children nt and with sn, I have witnessed it's success in my friends house who was actually broken with her dd tantruming CONSTANTLY, I am really not exaggerating my friend had a list of things she would not dare do in her own fucking house because her dd took exception to everything, she was so much in charge, my friend knew it everyone was on edge in the end in her dd's presence and she made my friend (who is lovely and a lovely brilliant Mum) look from the outside like a basket case with no control over her child (also she was constantly stressed and is prone to depression), she was just out of her depth with the behaviour and it masked all of the things she was doing really well and undermined her confidence as a mother.
Sounds like the things undermining your confidence are your ds's behaviour and your own Mother, who should really have your back and be trying to boost you right now if she was that great a Mother herself.
I hope your dh steps in when you are feeling like this to tell you that your Mum and Bro are full of shit.