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Don't want to feed my child.

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FeelingSoBlue · 09/10/2015 19:02

Hi. Before you all sharpen your knives I should explain that I'm disabled, as a consequence of my disability I suffer with chronic pain in my back that is currently being made worse by a horrid bladder infection. DS is 2, he had nursery for two hours this morning and I've been out all day visiting with my sister, taking him to the cafe or to shops (he likes a good mooch around, I promise). Anywho my point is, I've tried my absolute best to be a tiptop parent all day and now he needs food but I am so exhausted and in so much pain that I really don't think I can actually move to even make him toast. DH won't be home till 7:37pm ... can it wait? :(

Sorry for the post but this is every Friday and I don't think I deserve my son.

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gamerchick · 09/10/2015 19:05

When was the last time he ate?

gamerchick · 09/10/2015 19:06

If this is a regular thing you could put together something in the morning ready to feed him later on.

slightlyconfused85 · 09/10/2015 19:06

You have to make him some food he's only 2! Why such a specific time for your DH to come home? If you're DS can wait that long then fair enough but if he's hungry you'll have to muster up the energy for some toast and cheese or something.
Sorry you're feeling so poorly

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Sirzy · 09/10/2015 19:06

When did he last eat?

Can you not do spaghetti on toast or something simple for him?

Sleepybunny · 09/10/2015 19:06

Can you give him milk? Do you have some snacks? Crackers you give?

BastardGoDarkly · 09/10/2015 19:07

It's only 40 minutes, any crisps/biscuit/ fruit you can give him, tide him over?

SmokingGun · 09/10/2015 19:08

It sounds like you need to prepare food earlier in the day that you can grab out of the fridge at dinner time.

You really need to feed him OP, he's just a baby and 7:40 is very late for a 2 year olds dinner

cheekyfunkymonkey · 09/10/2015 19:09

Sorry you are feeling in pain. Can you give him something easy like weetabix to keep him going until your husband gets in? A hungry tired toddler may make the situation worse. Does this happen often, and if so is there anyone who can help, or was it just one of those days?

SnozzberryPie · 09/10/2015 19:09

Can you give him some crackers or a banana to keep him going? When does he need to go to bed?

bimandbam · 09/10/2015 19:09

Chuck him a couple of biscuits so hr isn't hungry. He won't get scurvy. Let your dp feed him later.

On a more serious note you need to manage your day on a Friday to have enough energy to sort both of you out at teatime.

My 2 yo ds has chip shop on Friday every week because I am busy on Friday.

SurlyCue · 09/10/2015 19:14

Surely he needs to be eating well before 7 anyway!

Fruit, yoghurts, crackers, milk, bread and butter.

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FeelingSoBlue · 09/10/2015 19:16

He's eaten steadily and solidly all day. So bloody sorry for the drip feed but he is NOT starving! He's a very picky eater and my husband actually does get in at approx 7:37pm because he gets a train and it's generally not late xD I always make sure my son eats something appropriate for tea because his eating habits can be awful in the day. I have just about managed to butter some toast, cut some cheese and grapes for him (not a shit parent, this is one of the few things he'll actually eat). It's just rough at the moment, no family around to help so it's just us. I might try and put money to one side for a chip shop dinner for him every Friday from now on, thanks everyone :)

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iwantavuvezela · 09/10/2015 19:16

Short term answer, just give a snack of whatever you or toddler can get. Can he reach into a fruit bowl or cupboard for cracker, biscuit.

Longer term, take the angst out of Friday by making sure you have something ready, made and within reach.

I hope you feel better soon,

SurlyCue · 09/10/2015 19:18

Not sure of the point of thread

PosterEh · 09/10/2015 19:19

Stop feeling like you're a shit parent. I'd have stayed home all day with CBeebies on in your situation.

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FeelingSoBlue · 09/10/2015 19:19

We didn't get home until about quarter past 6 which is a very unusual and unexpected one off as we don't see my sister often and my nephew was playing with my son, it was just nice tbh. Sorry again for drip feed, only been disabled for a few years and its gotten worse so adjusting is difficult.

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FeelingSoBlue · 09/10/2015 19:21

SurlyCue - I was asking for advice really. I feel completely and utterly fucking alone. I have a sister I see 3 times a year and a DH who works. I am in total agony so I think I might have been looking for a bit of hand holding. Sorry.

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SisterMoonshine · 09/10/2015 19:22

Would you not be entitled to some sort of Direct Payments towards assistance with childcare?

RiaOverTheRainbow · 09/10/2015 19:22

If this is a regular thing can you put him in nursery for a couple more hours or get a mother's help, so that you're not totally worn out by the end of the week?

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 09/10/2015 19:24

I'm not ill and I sometimes give my DC toast, cheese & grapes for tea. You have nothing to feel shit about. Be kinder to yourself.

SurlyCue · 09/10/2015 19:24

Yeah i guessed as much, didnt really think it was about feeding DS its ok to just say youre feeling shite here. Loads of people in same boat.

When your DH gets home have him run you a bath and take over with DS. Then get yourself an early night with whatever pain relief you have.

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FeelingSoBlue · 09/10/2015 19:24

SisterMoonshine - I've been researching Direct Payments but am worried about the potential involvement of Social Services? From what I've read they can be brought in when there's a situation like mine. :)

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HopefulHamster · 09/10/2015 19:25

SurlyCue are we not supposed to support one another. Cannot see the point of your post.

Sorry OP, it seems you only have so many spoons left (assuming you have heard of the spoon theory with chronic illnesses) by Friday and simply can't magic up energy. So yes planning is the answer. Either easy to do in advance or easy to reach or easy to snack on or easy to buy on a Friday. Whatever you have as your primary plan, have some easy to throw together cupboard food in with long dates for just in case.

Bit of toast and cheese and fruit is fine.

You can always aim to give him a bigger lunch than dinner as well. Hope things get better soon.

HopefulHamster · 09/10/2015 19:26

xposted with SurlyCue's second post.

JasperDamerel · 09/10/2015 19:26

I spent 4 months of morning sickness giving 2 year old DD nothing but ginger biscuits between breakfast and dinner at least once a fortnight. She survived. These things happen.

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