I'm not sure this is the right place for this and I was really flamed last time posting so I'm nervous but I'm scared I'm trying to minimise a situation again and although I hated the advice I got last time, it helped and I went to the necessary people for help. My partner has anger issues which he has finally admitted to and had agreed to go the GP about and has booked the appointment. However we have just been contacted by SS to say that they want to set up a CIN as a result of the assessment they carried out (due to my MH issues), and in the document they gave to us to read through before it says that they have accessed his medical records at the GP. I know that I signed and said they could see mine but he's not done the same and is now worrying about going to the doctors because it is the day before the CIN meeting.
I'm just so relieved he's decided to go to the doctors that I don't want anything to delay it. I'm guessing though realistically SS will need to know about this? Him knowing about my MH issues is seen as one of the most important "protective factors" I think it's called and so I'm guessing that if he goes to the GP with anger control issues then he won't be seen as a protective factor and it will be escalated through SS? I'm worried I'm just making excuses for him again but he's said he'll rearrange the appointment for the next day, so it's a case of not wanting SS to know as opposed to not wanting to go the the GP but I can't work out if that's okay or not. I just want SS to be happy and sign us off, as ds is happy and thriving at nursery (their words) and I'm finally settled and my MH is stable and actually enjoying being a parent for one of the first times. But I know it's not about how I feel it's about DSand his happiness and safety but I don't know what's best for him.
That was longer than I meant but I've tried to explain it clearly