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Straw poll: should I put DS back in pull ups....

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BotBotticelli · 06/10/2015 20:20

....5 days into toilet training, because he has not managed to get a poo anywhere near the toilet yet??

He just poos in his pants at least twice a day :-(

He has done brilliantly with wees, and since day 2 hasn't had any accidents and seems to have totally "got it". Now happily wees on the loo with a little trainer seat. Also uses the little toilets at nursery fine .

But my god the shitty pants are killing me. His poos are quite loose and they are ruining his underwear and trousers and I am literally gagging trying to clean them up.

I have an 8wo newborn as well and, quite literally, could do without this shit!

Wwyd?

Is there any hope the pooing might just click with him soon??

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PeppaPigStinks · 06/10/2015 20:23

No I wouldn't. Stick with the pants. Just but cheap ones and ditch the soiled ones.

PeppaPigStinks · 06/10/2015 20:23

In most cases poos come after wees

CupboardOfBacon · 06/10/2015 20:24

How old is he? I vote for pull ups and lots of encouragement and praise for managing to use the toilet.

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lljkk · 06/10/2015 20:32

How old is he? You can train while they wear pull ups, they get less practice at poo so takes longer.

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BotBotticelli · 06/10/2015 20:42

He is 2.10 (turns 3 in early December).

Am worried that we have done it too early as he is finding it very hard. I genuinely don't think he has any idea that a poo is coming until the very moment it is exiting his bum hole :-/

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lljkk · 06/10/2015 20:51

Try promising him a chockie raisin every time he gets to the toilet/potty in time. Give him a reason to pay better attention.

CupboardOfBacon · 06/10/2015 20:59

He is still really young and it doesn't sound like he is ready for it yet.
My advice would be pull ups, talking about the toilet in a positive fun way and maybe a reward like a sticker chart when he does go to the toilet

I think you find they go from not getting it to suddenly clicking. It will be fine, it just takes a little patience

Scattymum101 · 06/10/2015 21:11

My dd took longer with poos but she got there. I used a sticker chart but gave her two stickers for a poo and just one for a pee. Got there after about a week.

megletthesecond · 06/10/2015 21:14

Yes, swop to pull ups.

Mine were in pull ups for months while I gently potty trained them. If they made it to the loo, great, if they didn't or we were out and about it didn't matter. Far less fuss than wet clothes and stress. They only went over to pants just after they were 3, did it over the xmas break when we could stay at home a bit.

Alfabetibisgetti · 06/10/2015 21:20

We had a few months of ds bringing me a pull up to put on him when he wanted to poo.
Better than shitty pants so we didn't force it.
He went for a sleepover at his gps house and, as dgm was busy, when ds told dgd he wanted a poo, dgd put him on the loo. He pooed and, ta-da!, no more pull ups.

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BotBotticelli · 06/10/2015 22:27

Yes, the HV told me that lots of toddlers ask for a nappy/pull up when they want to poo. I bloody wish my son would do this! I would happily put one on him, rather than have to clean up these awful shitty pants. But he doesn't ask! And it seems wrong of me to suggest it.

I might give bit another week or so in pants and then go back to pull ups if this pooing continues.

Those of you who used pull ups: did you find that your children still wee'd on the loo/potty when wearing them, or did they revert to weeing in the pull up? I don't wanna set my son back when he seems to be dry.

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Scattymum101 · 06/10/2015 22:34

I put dd in pull ups if we were going out and she mostly stayed dry but then she fell ill with a cold about two weeks in so I put her back in pull ups as she was having a lot of accidents as she was poorly and then she started just wetting them and not asking for the toilet so I had to go cold turkey on the pull ups at that point but it was more because she was in them all the time.

Does your ds have any kind of poo pattern? My dd would go at the same time roughly every day and I would start prompting her about it which helped.

justabigdisco · 06/10/2015 22:39

Stick with it for now, it's only been 5 days. Wees always come first and poos later. Pull ups might confuse things. Agree get some cheapo pants from primark or something and chuck them. Stickers/choc to bribe and keep the faith.

TeamBacon · 06/10/2015 22:44

Just put him in pull ups. You've got an 8wo, it's too much right now.

For the record - DS did this at 2.11. Gave up, tried again 6 weeks later, and he cracked it in less than 3 days.

He's not ready.

slightlyconfused85 · 07/10/2015 08:03

Keep going. Dd had wees in 2 days but poo took 3 weeks. 3 weeks of shitty knickers, accidents and fuss. But just as I was about to give up she got it- it's a strange sensation for them to get used to but once she got it she's not had a accident since and that was 6 months ago.

slightlyconfused85 · 07/10/2015 08:05

Also go to asda or somewhere cheap and buy lots and lots of cheap pants and just chuck them. I know it's a bit wasteful but it's only for a few weeks then they can have whichever character pants make them happy!

SomethingAboutNothing · 07/10/2015 08:13

We have had the same issue with DS, it has taken a few months but we are getting there now, more poos in potty than in pants. But all through he's been so reliable with his wee that it would have put us back if we used pull-ups as he would just wee in them.

Big treats when he does a poo on the potty has helped, and leaving him without pants/trousers when at home helped so he could dash to the potty when he felt it coming helped him understand the urge I think. I agree with others, lots of cheap pants and just bag and bin.

LittleLionMansMummy · 07/10/2015 08:13

5 days is really early. Ds got the wees earlier than the poos and was the same age. I bought loads of cheap pants and threw the really bad ones away if they couldn't be rescued. I would stick with it a while longer as it's seems he's probably ready if he's reliably doing wees. Ds was never motivated by stickers but chocolate buttons worked for us. Good luck.

poocatcherchampion · 07/10/2015 08:14

Pants off altogether?

Bare bum is a helpful reminder.

CarrotPuff · 07/10/2015 14:29

Does he poo roughly at the same time of the day? If he does I would suggest to sit on a potty and do a poo. If he only does a wee, praise him and tell him now let's do a poo. The more times he does it on a potty, the quicker he'll be able to recognise the sensation of poo coming. I would perservere with pants.

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BotBotticelli · 07/10/2015 16:42

Thanks all! God, this requires depths of patience I am not sure I possess!

Another day, another two poos in his pants here :-(

But dry overnight and reliably weeing in loo all day, including at my friends house. So gonna stick with it for another week or so and see how we get on.

He is at nursery 3 days per week and they are being supportive so am hoping that a bit of peer pressure might help too (although in both Monday and Tuesday he soiled 2 pairs of pants beyond saving st nursery - poor staff...!)

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