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how to say something with out sounding rude

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princess89 · 04/10/2015 00:41

Hi all,

My sons 3rd birthday coming up and my ex has told his sisters he don't need toys he needs cloths or gift vouchers. They haven't asked me once what my son would like or needs and my ex don't really know as he only sees him once a mouth on a Saturday.

How do I tell ex's family with out sounding rude to them that my son don't need cloths he as enough as I've gone out and got him all new stuff to last! And not to get gift vouchers as what 3 year old what's to open that!

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AnnaMarlowe · 04/10/2015 00:45

Just speak to your ex Mil or SIL and say I understand you were discussing birthday presents for DS with xxx. Would it be helpful if I put together a quick list of suggestions?

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princess89 · 04/10/2015 00:47

I've already said to him and gave him s list but he still hasn't told them!!

I'd like them to get something he like but don't want to come across rude

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Permanentlyexhausted · 04/10/2015 00:58

I assume you don't live with your ex so perhaps he is thinking that your son needs clothes for when he is with him? Or he wants to buy him something where vouchers would be easiest?

Why do they need to ask you what your son wants or needs? Why can't your ex make those sort of decisions?

I think it would be better to let your ex's family buy what they want for your son and you buy what you want. After all, your son has two parents who are both entitled make decisions on his behalf.

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LilQueenie · 04/10/2015 01:04

vouchers may not be a bad idea if involves a trip to say toysrus and he picks whatever he wants. My 4yr old DD loves it. Perhaps write a short note with his current interests and they can choose something from that without it being an actual item list. If you explain why I dont see how they could take it the wrong way and they may find it helpful.

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princess89 · 04/10/2015 01:19

As I said my ex don't know as he only sees him once a mouth on a Saturday and that only an hour that was his Choice not mine so he would my cloths for when his with him!

Yes he has 2 parents I never said he didn't! Why ask me maybe coz I'm with my son all the time and knows what his in to and likes!

In not saying gift vouchers are a bad idea but his told them to get them for next I was meant to put that and didn't. If it was a voucher he could use in a toy shop that would me fine

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princess89 · 04/10/2015 01:23

So wouldn't need cloths why with him!

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