need somewhere to live!

[Katieemilyxo]

I'm 17 and have a eight week old baby all there is in my house hold is arguments shouting and screaming between my parents my dad comes home from work and starts on her soon as he comes in shouting at the top of his voice my little boy will be asleep and his yelling will wake him up and hell start crying iv realised I've keeps randomly crying at times or wakes up screaming in his sleep and I have to pick him up for him to stop I don't know where I can go I love my little boy so much where can I go? I don't want my son bought up around this my dad saids I'm nothing to him and he constantly shouts at me I suffered from depression because of him and was very ill doing stuff I regret but soon as I found out I was pregnant I stopped and wanted to change my life around for my beautiful boy I just need to get out of here but where:(? Any advice

I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I don't have specific advice but please talk to your health visitor and ask them to point you in the direction of help. Good luck, be strong and congratulations on your son

Your health visitor should be able to help refer you to local housing associations and let you know what benefits you'd be entitled too etc. Do you have any other family members you could live with? A grandparent or aunt/uncle? Are you with the babies Dad? Can he or his family offer you any support?

The father of my son is horrible to me were together but I don't think we will be much longer he controls me and pays no attention to his son my other family aren't interested in me really and wouldn't help my mum's had enough to I don't have a health visitor and I have a different person who comes as I'm a teenager and she's just horrible to just want somewhere argument free for my little boy to be bought up in :((

I think it is entirely possible for you to contact your local domestic violence unit. The screaming and shouting and intimidation is in fact a form of abuse, and you will find great support there. Failing all else your local council are obliged to help you find safe and secure housing, contact them and tell them you have to move out and the age of your baby.

What is your mother doing to help? Do you have friends that can support you? Grandparents? Look at all options.

Make use of the help around you. I have put the link below to help you:

refuge.org.uk

you sound like a wonderful and caring mother, and you need to find the right people around you to help you move forward. Contact your local church, the refuge, your council, talk to your HV and be confident that it is simply a home you are looking for and nothing else. Good luck for you and your little boy.

Hi have you been to the local children's centre or sure start most of them run a group for younger mums and will have lots of help and information. Just pop in and the staff will tell you all about what they do and what they have running. I'm sure they will point you in the right direction

You could contact the money advice service online they are pretty informative

You take care of the little fella and yourself

Don't know where you live but there's a charity called St Basil's in Birmingham who would maybe help...there could be something similar near you?

Thank you for all ur advice and help going to try sort something out soon as possible xoxoxo

Katie.. so sorry for all that you are going through, you sound like a truly lovely person. You are right you need to get your baby boy away from this situation.

There are many wise people here who can give you practical advice, all l can say is don't doubt yourself, ditch, the father he seems to add nothing to your life, find some accomodation just for you and your son if you can and plan your future it can be so much better.

Good luck and stay strong.