being a parent

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I have a nearly 3 year old and a 6 month old and I'm crying. I'm so unhappy being a mum. Is anyone else?

Can you break it down?

Why?

Is it lack of sleep, loneliness, the relentless routine?

It's relentless. My house is a tip. My tummy fat. I wanted to run tonight but the baby still awake. I just don't want to do it anymore. People say how you getting on, I say it's full on, they say oh it's worth it though and it's all fun and games, I think no it's shit shit shit

Are you getting any help and support from your partner, parents, in laws or friends?

A couple of hours where someone else has responsibility for the children (even if you don't go out) may help.

My eldest has two mornings at playgroup but I try to exercise then and the baby goes to childminder if I need at the same time. I should be resting or sorting house then but I feel I need to lose weight and I'm breastfeeding and (bottle feeding when at childminder) it makes me so hungry!
My family are crap at helping me. I sent them a group message saying I've lost it and don't want to do it anymore and no ones helped me. I don't trust his family at the mo with the baby. My mum is helping me actually as I work half a day a week and she has them then. I get help from my DP but he can be quite crap with emotional support at times.
I just don't know if others feel like this. I really feel I'm bringing up two kids who will feel their mum was short tempered and unhappy and have massive complexes

Have you considered seeing your doctor? It could be PND, and your doctor should be able to prescribe something that won't affect Breastfeeding.

I get most of my exercise whilst with the baby, getting out for some good walks with the carrier or the buggy. I know some people swear by Buggy fit to get into shape, should be one in your local area, even if you just went to a couple to find out what to do and then do it yourself if you go for a walk.

It's hard when breastfeeding, and I'm the same whereby it makes me super hungy. Have been trying to eat more filling meals and less chocolate..

Are you just overwhelmed today or have you generAlly been feeling like this?
If this is how you've been feeling then go see your gp and talk to them about how you are.
I had the same age gap as you and it was really difficult some days.
I went out walking with the buggy most days, cooked mostly one pot meals and had a cleaner to help me at the time.
Go out without the kids too. Do you have friends you can go out with?

I'm feeling better today but I have these bad days 2-3 days a week. My low mood goes very low and when I feel ok the rest of the I'm almost a different person.
Maybe I should see the Doctor?

I'm feeling exactly the same. I wanted to just run away today as my 3 year old wouldn't get dressed and my 7 month old is teething and screaming all day long, throwing herself at me and kicking and clawing at me when I hold her but breaking her heart if I put her down anywhere.
I just can't stand it anymore. I feel like I'm awful at this and it's relentless. I can never keep my house even presentable, I get no time to myself to have a bath or even put on moisturiser.
I feel better when I work out as it releases some of the anxiety and frustration but it's so hard to get a chance to do the exercise.

I'm going to the dr on Thursday about my low moods and feeling so down. It's maybe worth talking to someone to see if that could be contributing but it also sounds like you need more help from your partner xx

I don't really have anything new to add, DDs are 16 months apart and it was really hard when they were small. Def agree with exercise with the baby so you get to use the child free time you have for more relaxing things. Can you afford a cleaner? Even if it's only once in a while and for a short period? And I'd go and talk to the doctor too. Oh and my saving grace was a friend with a baby v similar age so who understood where I was coming from, we could just meet up, bang on about how awful things were and get it out of our systems...