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At a loss again.

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winkywinkola · 26/09/2015 15:48

This is the only place where DS1 can be right now without trashing his room or sticking two fingers up at my other children or calling them names.

He's been hitting his bedroom walls with bits of wood. Started to dismantle his bunk bed.

Why?

Because we won't give back his tablet due to his generally unpleasant, uncooperative, hostile behaviour.

It's gone on too long. 8 years of this.

He's seeing a counsellor. We got an appointment 18 months after my GP agreed we need help.

She thinks he is marvellous. She told me what a great son I have despite my telling her clearly and in detail about his behaviour. She's the gateway to further care on the. NHS.

I can't live day in and day out with someone who clearly is so full of hate, anger and hostility and yet is an angel at school. School is obviously where he thrives. He's perfect there. Academically very able too.

We have sought help from GPs and other counsellors. There is no more help available.

He's ramping up his behaviour. He is realising how big he's getting. He's ten now and not a small child. His constant defiance and refusal to cooperate makes things very hard.

At a loss again.
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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
winkywinkola · 26/09/2015 15:49

Posted too soon. What the feck am I going to do? Nothing works. Rewards or punishment. Nothing.

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winkywinkola · 26/09/2015 15:49

I don't have the money to shell out on child psychiatrists or whatever he needs.

He just doesn't seem to get that if he behaves badly then there are consequences.

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ouryve · 26/09/2015 15:58

Just a quick reply cos my battery is low but I couldn't read and run.

I have one similar. When you strip away the anger he is lovely, thou. And quite vulnerable.

If you haven't been signposted before, a few things to look up:
Pathological demand avoidance
Challenging behaviour foundation
And the book, the explosive child. The lives in the balance website gives you a flavour of what it's about

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