Help, please

[Bloomingheckles]

Hi everyone, I am new on here, and need some help with something that I can’t talk about easily in real life.
I have a brilliant, clever, confident, happy 2 year old daughter. I took 12 months maternity with her, and then my husband took 6 months off with her, and then she started going to a childminder at 18 months (though she has mostly only been going once a week, because I took some time off work again shortly after).
The problem is, from day one at the childminders, she wasn’t pleased to see me when I picked her up. She seemed indifferent to me on day one, and after that she sometimes cried and struggled to get down and said “no” when I wanted to pick her up at home time. It broke my heart. After a while she got better and was pleased to see me, but this has been happening again just lately.
The trouble is, I have a bit of OCD and I have been researching online, and some articles say that this is a sign of an insecure attachment. I can’t get this out of my head, and it is making me so sad. I have loved and cared for her every day, and I don’t know why she would have an insecure attachment. My husband says she only acts like this because she wants to stay and play because she is so confident and loves people, but I am still worrying. What did I do wrong, and how can I move on if I have ruined our attachment already? I am due to go back to work soon and I can’t face this upset everyday.
Thank you for reading all this!

Hi blooming.... if she had an insecure attachment she would NOT be a happy confident child, it's probably just as your dh says. It's horrible when they react this way, but nothing to worry about

At age 2 my daughter was exactly the same - more interested in carrying on playing than running to cuddle me. Especially if there were other children there who were staying rather than leaving at the same time - is that the case at the childminders?

I never read anything bad into it, certainly not insecure attachment. My mum told me I was exactly the same as a child so I think it's just a personality trait. Don't worry!

I would say the exact opposite and that she has such a secure attachment she knows you will always be there/come back for her/love her and so at that moment in time she is busy playing and wants to do that. She can rely on you to be there, so she wants to make the most of having fun at the childminder. My DS is the same when I pick him up from my mums.