Babywearing experts... v specific carrier advice needed!

[Vanoose]

Hi all

I am trying to find a carrier that will work for my 6.5kg baby to nap in. He will only nap when being worn and with something to block out the light. Currently he naps in a Caboo Close which has been PERFECT - stretchy, holds him close, covers his face if he wants. However he's getting a bit heavy for me in it - he's started to slide down mid-nap and the shoulder and neck pain is starting to get pretty rough, so I feel like a semi structured carrier is next.

I had whiplash a long time ago but guess it's never really healed perfectly so I need a carrier that holds as much weight as possible on the middle/lower back and waist, and has spreadable or very wide shoulders (like the Caboo's straps).

I use the Baby Bjorn for shopping and this is great for my back with the huge panel. He won't sleep in it though.

I have tried an Ergo, Tula and Manduca - these don't give the middle/lower back support I need as the weight is on the shoulders and waist...

So I guess I'm wondering if there's a carrier out there:
1 - comfy enough for him to sleep in
2 - with a wide hood or stretch panel to block the light
3 - with a super supportive back structure with the weight on the lower back and waist as much as possible, and wide/spreadable straps
4 - that will work as he gets bigger and heavier
5 - something structured so that he won't slide down during the nap

I've got a sling library close by but it's only fortnightly and the next two sessions are both on days when I'm away (typical)!!

I wish I didn't have to be so specific! We have tried non sling naps and the only other option is the car, and my back is suffering more each day it feels, so I am desperate for a solution!

Thanks a lot
Vanessa

Just an update here, I went for a Fidella Fly Tai in the end, it was a close call between that and the Hop Tye. The Fly Tai just because it had the bigger waist band for that bit extra support. It's so comfy for me with the spreadable shoulders and huge wide straps across the back, and he's sleeping like a dream in it, possibly better than in the Caboo! So thanks for all your support and this thread has a happy ending :-)

Glad there is a happy ending!

What I was going to add, just for other people, is that the Manduca doesn't need to take the weight on your waist. You can cross the back staps and put the waist band lower on your hips if you want to shift the weight lower.

I clicked on here S I remember your first thread. I was about to post to recommend a Fly Tai....! Looks like you got there before I did

I'm surprised that you felt the Tula put the weight on your shoulders. I find the waist band takes the majority of the weight and the shoulder straps are more there just to hold her in.

It did take me a while to get the straps at the right setting for me and it took a while to break mine in but it's so comfy now and dd sleeps well in it.
Did you try it at a sling meet?