I'm a full time dad to my 18 month old ds and wondered if anyone else had noticed the victorian style ideas society still seems to have to this. Me and wife started out with me working full time and her being the full time parent as I was the higher earner. Unfortunately my wife hit some major walls with post natal depression and the best way we found for her to get better was for her to be back in the work atmosphere and for me to stay home with ds. This works absolutely fantastically for us, wife is a million times happier being surrounded by people all day and loves the reaction she gets from ds when she gets I'm from works and I love all the quality time and interaction I able to have with ds that most father's miss out on. The problem I find is with people outside of our little bubble. People will ask "what do you do for work" to which I would reply " I'm a full time parent" the reaction is then usually a look down the nose and a off the cuff comment of oh so you don't work. When a woman says she doesn't work as she is a full time mum this seems to be generally so much more accepted. When we go to play groups I find we aren't engaged very much at all by other mums. It's very difficult to set up play dates as most husbands don't want a strange man at home spending time with his wife. Even family members have been less than supportive. I don't know why in the 21st century we are still living by these vitorian standards. Anyone else had any experience of this