7 year old with fears help

[kayleez1]

Hi i was wondering if any one had any advice my son is now 7 he's a lovely caring young lad. Since he was a baby he's always been very aware of danger you would only have to tell him once he would be hurt and he would stop doing what he was doing ie dont touch the fire its burnies, more recently he has started having bad dreams and paniking about fires fire alarms he gets tummy ache and feels sick at the thought of the fire alarm going off, We were at the dentist last week and the fire alarm went off he became irratic crying running and generally freaking out what can i do to help his fears? Its not just the fire alarms/fires its people dying any changes (school) not been able to do certain things like spell or read horrible things can any one help ??

Any suggestions would be great i talk to him i calm him assure him but to no avail what can i do

Can I ask are you an anxious person? Might you be reflecting your anxieties into him.

In my experience, these things occur because of something that has happened or is happening rather than being born with a propensity to be anxious.

I can be a anxious but not about situations that he is. He was my 1st born and i was very protective over him naturally so the don't touch certain things or don't climb you will fall was my natural way of protecting him, he never disagreed or after been told once never attempted to do the things i said not to do (i wrapped him in cotton wool) for want of a better phrase lol

I was like this as a child. I changed bedrooms when i was 9, from a big lovely room to a much smaller (spare) room. The reason being, if there was a fire in the night, i could climb out of the window of the small room onto the top of a bay window. There was no bay window under the big room.

So, maybe discuss safety and what to do in the event of a fire. Ie its important to stay calm, and identify fire escapes. It might help him to know what to do. I have no idea why this started for me. Never told anyone at the time and it had passed by the time i was 11.