I'm not accusing anyone BUT.... a phone call from my MIL

[Demon]

That's how the call started from my MIL, "but my engagement ring is missing".

My two ds aged 9 & 3 years have just spent the weekend at my In-Laws. She rang me this morning, when everyone else was at work/school, to say that her rings had been played with and one was now missing did anyone know where it was? I looked through my eldest ds trouser pockets and there was the ring. I have told her that I have found the ring and will keep it safe, but what do I do now?

He's done it before but then it was money that he took and not something of such sentimental value. At the time we didn't tell his Dad as he would....well it wouldn't be nice. But what do I do now?

I obviously want this to stop. He has to learn that it is not right to take other peoples things and that trust is something extremely important and he is now not to be trusted. How far do we go? Do I tell my husband? How do we give the ring back? Do I make him do it?

I am shaking because I am shocked and angry.

Maybe dh jumping in feet first is just what ds needs.

Demon - just wondering how you got on with DS1 last night?

Thanks all for your advice. I asked ds after school about the ring and he was quite defensive and said he didn't know what I was on about. When I said that Grandma was very upset that she had lost the ring he did admit the fact that he had got the ring. We will be going to see Grandma tonight to take back the ring where I hope that he will apologise, promise not to do it again and hopefully mean it. I am hoping that having to do that and face up to what he has done will be enough for him not to do it again. I have also decided that as part of his punishment he is not allowed to play on any electronic games and is grounded for the week. I have not yet told dh about any of what has gone on, I know it will be for the best if I do as someone said he is my dh and my ds dad and therefore should know. I just need to find the right time and the words to say.

I do feel a little narked though at my In-Laws for apparently letting both ds play with her jewelery in the first place and allowing them in their bedroom unsupervised. Not that I am blaming them but sometimes they are a little too silly with them in the things that they allow them to do.