Pregnant with my fourth and DS3 only 6 months old - any help, advice or reassurance desperately appreciated!!

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So I just found out I'm pregnant with my fourth child. My oldest turns 7 soon, DD2 is 4 (starting school next month) . . . but my current youngest is only 6 months old. This was in no way planned and actually conceived while using contraception (as was DD1). I'm in a stable marriage with their dad, but like many men . . .he doesn't do a lot! I'm just so worried about how I will cope. It will be a big strain financially and we'll have to move before it's born. When I found out, my first thought was that I had no choice, I'd have to have a termination . . . which I know is what my husband would like me to do. I have an appointment booked Monday, but I'm more and more sure I can't go through with it. Anyone else been in a similar situation with this many kids and this small an age gap? Help! xxx

I would also play the teamwork game, with DH and yourself neither of you gets to sit down unless the other one can too. If you're cooking, he's cleaning or looking after the kids which doesn't mean sitting on his phone looking up at them occasionally or tidying.

Obviously when you're struggling with the pregnancy you can sit down while he does everything!

Also make sure he has them all sometimes to give you a proper break. Even if you can't sleep for a lie in, you can just chill upstairs and rest etc.