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Velcro baby-need advice!

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Lindseyjai23 · 20/08/2015 14:54

Hi there,
My little girl is 6 weeks old and will only nap during the day if I hold her. If she falls asleep and I put her in the Moses basket she instantly cries, the same applies for a nursing pillow and her cot. She was small when she was born (5lb 12oz) so feeds little and often which typically means waking 5 of 6 times a night (I am breast feeding) She is my first and I would be grateful of any advice regarding promoting longer periods of sleep at night-currently she is waking up every two hours. The health visitor thinks she has silent reflux so I don't know if that is something to do with it however the Infant gaviscon the doctor prescribed hasn't had any affect, likewise Infacol so I am missing trying Colief.
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mummypig3 · 20/08/2015 14:58

My ds was the same. I ended up Co sleeping as I was so tired and just wanted to sleep. I would recommend a sling during the day so you are hands free. It gets easier as they get older Smile

ManeEvent · 20/08/2015 15:05

Hi I can't offer any advice re the reflux, and that may be throwing things off and mean my advice isn't right for your LO, but....

My DS was exactly like this...just wasn't happy unless he was on me.

He had some secret build in alarm which sounded if I moved 1 foot away from him.

I think he spent 5 mins total in his moses basket before he outgrew it.

In the end, one night when he was 8 weeks old and I was bone weary with tiredness I woke up twice in one night having fallen asleep feeding him and was slumped over in a chair with him, which is really dangerous.

At this point I gave up and tried co-sleeping (which I had been against), as I decided I couldn't not be more dangerous than what was happening. Bingo! He went from waking two hourly to sleeping from 11pm to 5am (wake /feed and back to sleep) till 8am in a couple of days. I cried with the relief.

In the day I just had him in a sling, at night co-sleeping. Yes its a huge ask to have a baby strapped to you or sleeping by you non-stop every minute but to be honest the relief of being able to sleep or sit down and rest without non-stop distress was massive for me.

ManeEvent · 20/08/2015 15:05

x post with mummypig, am a slow typer! Grin

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Whatevva · 20/08/2015 15:14

I got my bf twins going longer in the night by not trying to make them go longer in the evening and feeding constantly between 6 and 10pm. It was what they wanted to do.

addictedtosugar · 20/08/2015 15:18

Sling for day time, so you can achieve something while she sleeps.
Feed more often in the day and evening.
Consider safe cosleeping.

My velcro baby is a Velcro 6 YR old now, and cuddles up at every oportunity.!

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 20/08/2015 15:19

Prop the basket up so baby not flat, so no acid burn. Stop being so gentle when moving them... so they learn to be moved.

Lindseyjai23 · 20/08/2015 15:23

Thank you for all of the advice it's much appreciated, especially as I am so tired! I've just hired a sling from my local sling library so I am going to try that tomorrow, I get stressed not being able to get any house work done do I hope the sling works! In regards to the co-sleeping, I have considered this however not sure how best to go about it as some people recommend it and some people don't; I guess it's what's best for me and my little one :-) x

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Elllimam · 20/08/2015 15:26

My Velcro baby is now a Velcro one year old and co sleeping and slings worked for us.

ManeEvent · 20/08/2015 15:38

My MW gave me really good safety advice on co-sleeping advice, don't know if you are still in touch with yours or not? There are some cases where they advise NOT coo-sleeping, the main one having a smoker in the house but might be worth checking with them.

In essence it was the baby must have its own section of the bed away from any pillows, sheets or duvets. So in my double bed, DH sleeps on one side, I sleep in the middle and baby sleeps to my other side, in a sleepsuit and grobag (was swaddled until big enough for grobag).

In the winter, DH had the duvet half on him, half on the floor on the other side, so no risk of overlap, I wore tracksuit bottoms and a knitted cardi (undone) up top and socks to keep warm. I used one pillow doubled over to make a head sized pillow rather than have my pillow extend towards where the baby was sleeping.

I was worried I'd roll onto the baby so MW told me to sleep on my left side (facing baby) with my left arm out over babies head- in effect keeping me still as you can't roll over onto your arm, iyswim

The main issues were baby being suffocated and baby getting too hot.

When he got a bit older we also then had to think about baby rolling off the bed. To fix this we got a IKEA Gulliver cot (one side is removable) and DH sawed about an inch off each leg so the cot mattress was exactly the same height as the mattress. DS now rolls forwards out of the cot onto me, feeds and rolls back like a roll on roll off ferry Hmm

LadesC · 20/08/2015 18:05

i could have written your post. My 3.5 wk old has barely slept day or nite for days. We thought poss reflux but gaviscon hasnt helped. Started colief last nite and today she has slept for 2.5 hour stints... not in my arms... only waking for feeds between 1pm and 6pm!!!! Admittedly we havent had a nite yet so she may b worse then. HV suggested putting a muslin nxt to her cheek for comfort altho wud b worried bout that overnight incase she pulled it over her head. Also i think i was overwinding her and making her sicky....hv said try gentle back rub few mins...if no wind pop her down to sleep. Def try the colief!!

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