Struggling with a 4 month old

[koala28]

I have a 4 month old and he cries most of the time. He is usually either asleep or crying . I have done all I can and know that he is perfectly ok health wise. I have often thought that I can't do this and that my son would be better off adopted as I just can't seem to make him happy. Has anyone else had thoughts like these and do they pass. Does it get easier?

I don't have any advice, I'm afraid, I've only got a 3 month old. I've had times where I've thought I couldn't do it. My motto is always "This too shall pass", so yes, it will get better. Hang in there!

My friends ds was exactly the same. It got gradually better as he could sit up, crawl and then walk. My friend thought that maybe her ds was frustrated and bored maybe? Who knows! But he's 9 now and the sweetest happiest boy. So hang in there.

I had a perpetual crier, she had colic which didn't help, but she had to be on/near you and was very high needs. Then 6 months arrived and she could sit, grab, play... It was like having a different baby! Hang in there, it does pass.

Have you tried using a sling? My ds is always much more contented in his.

Is he always like this? If it's a phase, google wonder weeks, he might be going through a developmental spurt.

Otherwise, remember you're his mum and you're the best thing in his world, even if his world is frustrating or over stimulating at times. Caring for a crying baby is hard work, I bet you're doing a great job.

I have a nearly 5 month old who sounds very similar. It's so draining. I have found over the past couple of weeks that we are starting to have more good days, mixed in with the difficult ones, so I think it's starting to get better. I do think he's frustrated at not being able to do the things he wants to so an hopeful that once he sits up, crawls etc he'll be happier.

We have a refluxer who is now 2, he was a high needs baby and a constant crier, it was really wearing!

I also agree with previous posters that he became almost a different child when he was able to sit up and play and then eventually crawl and walk. He's now a pretty chilled out toddler and can entertain himself beautifully.

Hang in there - it will get better! X

Thank you so much for all your replies; it is good to know I am not alone! I have tried a sling, but find it really awkward as my son wriggles constantly. I think I will definitely consider the cranial osteopath as someone else has also recommended that to me. I am BFing but find that really difficult at times as he cries when feeding as well. I am hoping that once he is sitting up properly on his own and able to play then he may become less bored and a little happier!

4 - 6 months were the worst bit for me (so far anyway!) I wore her a lot, which seemed to soothe her most. Even in the house. She got much better when she could sit and then crawl/roll around. She's 10 months now and has been walking for a couple of weeks... she's just an impatient child, and any whinging is linked to frustration. It passed.

Sling!

Koala. I know EXACTLY how u feel. I've had these thoughts many of times I have a 5mth old who sometimes I just want to tell to shut the hell up! I don't know about you but I cannot stand the crying after hours of it. I give my baby everything she wants and you never feel it's good enough. I give her constant attention and if I leave the room to make her a bottle or go to the toilet I have very loud penetrating screaming .. She is literally tied to my hip. She doesn't like being dressed or away from me for a second. so I assure you I know how it feels...

4 months was a funny age for mine. Sight and sound kicked in ... so everything was rather overwhelming.

4 more months and he will sit up, eat solids, need fewer milk feeds and "play".

Hang on in there ...