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Why do so many babies sleep through

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ZebraZeebra · 11/08/2015 19:01

And neither of mine just never have??

I read/hear about it so often. At six weeks/13 weeks/23 weeks...whatever. It's often on threads about babies going into their own rooms. My ds didn't sleep through until 13 months and my dd - 24 weeks - had yet to wake less than three times.

I just can't wrap my head round not having to wake up. My children woke the most in the evening in the time between their bedtime and my bedtime - whether they were downstairs or in their own room. Why didn't I get one of these great sleepers? stamps foot

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Writerwannabe83 · 11/08/2015 19:03

My guess is people are either lying or exaggerating

EvilTwins · 11/08/2015 19:04

My DTDs slept through from 10 weeks. I put it down to them being good eaters and never being alone (because they had each other) We didn't do anything special.

bruffin · 11/08/2015 19:06

No they are not lying or exagetating. Both my dc slept through from about 10 to 7am from 12 weeks. I didnt do anything,they just didnt wake for a feed one night and carriend on like that

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RolyPolierThanThou · 11/08/2015 19:09

Mine didn't sleep through until 13 an 15 months respectively, either.

It's just one of those things. I was a good sleeper as a baby, my sister wasn't. It's luck.

BertieBotts · 11/08/2015 19:12

Their definition of "sleep through" is different to yours. Or they sleep trained?

I didn't put DS to bed early until he was older, though. Just kept him downstairs until about 11 when we went up. I think waking a lot at that time is quite normal - they call it the witching hour! :)

nottheOP · 11/08/2015 19:13

Some do
Some count sttn as midnight to 5 am, Some count it as only having to pop a dummy in, no night feeds
some lie. Dsil has a good sleeper, she isn't really but Dsil says she is.

LikeSilver · 11/08/2015 19:13

My DD slept through from around 12 weeks. My DS at six months is still waking twice a night. Both were/are EBF, both had a very similar if not the same routine. It's a lottery I reckon!

avocadotoast · 11/08/2015 19:14

Isn't sleeping through classed as 6 hours or more? So people don't necessarily mean 7-7. My 11 week old slept through last night by that definition but didn't go to bed until 10.

Passmethecrisps · 11/08/2015 19:16

My dd started sleeping in stretches of 8 hours from 5 weeks old.

We were worried as there had concerns about her weight but the paediatrician was convinced that she had the ability to wake if she needed to.

We did not sleep train or ignore her to cry. She just likes sleeping.

TeaandHobnobs · 11/08/2015 19:16

My DS slept through a total of 5 times before his 2nd birthday.

My DD, who has not been treated any differently (and in fact the only difference is DS was a dinky prem at under 5lb and DD was massive at 9lb+), has NOT slept through about 5 times since birth (21 weeks now). I still can't believe it.

fizzicles · 11/08/2015 19:17

Dd1 started sleeping through at 7 months, then at 8 months I went back to work and she started waking in the night again. Took another couple of months before she regularly slept through.

Dd2 slept through at about a week old. Not every night, but probably 3/4 times a week. It was absolute bliss and we definitely did nothing to make her do it, she just slept. Until about 14 weeks that is. After a few weeks of hellish sleep, she now (at 5 months) wakes two or three times for a feed, which is manageable.

I think as a parent you can provide a helpful environment for sleep, but the child is gonna do what they're gonna do. It's easy to think if you just get the conditions perfect then they'll sleep, but I think you end up driving yourself mad that way.

Also, yes, people lie.

Artandco · 11/08/2015 19:18

My definition of sleep through is different to yours
Mine always slept in living room with us and woke/ fed/ slept on and off until we went to bed around 11pm. Took them to bed with us around 11pm and they slept through until morning. That's sleeping through to me. 7pm-7am is uncommon, most small babies feed lots in the evening.

Passmethecrisps · 11/08/2015 19:18

Weirdly I felt that I was judged massively at baby groups for having a sleeper - I never mentioned it other than being asked. Then I got the look as though I had been leaving an infant to cio.

qumquat · 11/08/2015 19:22

I try not to talk to anyone about sleep for this reason! Dd slept through at 13 months which I think is pretty normal. She rarely went to bed before midnight for the first few months (she would bf through the evening) but she would still wake in the small hours for another feed.

pickledparsnip · 11/08/2015 19:25

My boy woke every 45mins/hour til he was 2ish, breastfed on demand, co-slept. He's 5 now and mostly in his own bed and sleeps really well. First 2 years were hell though!

MsPhoebeCaulfield · 11/08/2015 19:29

My DD has started sleeping rheough this week at 9 months

MsPhoebeCaulfield · 11/08/2015 19:30

Sent too soon! A sleeping through for me is 7.30pm to 7 onwards the next Su with no wake ups. It is heaven.

blacktreaclecat · 11/08/2015 19:31

Sleeping through - to me that was a 5 or 6 hour stretch so 10-11pm to 5-6am. DS did that at 10 weeks. He didn't properly sleep all night 7-7 until at least 6 months. He was bottle fed but don't know if that makes any difference

bruffin · 11/08/2015 19:35

The 7.30 to 7 definition is ridiculous as my dc are in their tlate eens and never went to bed before 8 so have never slept through.
Them going to bed before us and waking at 7 is sleeping through enough for me. That was 9 hours at 12 weeks as i said above.

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ZebraZeebra · 11/08/2015 19:39

It's just not fair I fully believe some babies do. I just don't know why mine didn't/don't. I think the early evening wake ups are most aggravating. I don't mind so much in the middle of the night but in the evening, I just want to watch Corrie and Emmerdale!

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BettyCatKitten · 11/08/2015 19:40

My DT's slept from 11-7 ish from around 10 weeks, just got lucky I guess.
Dc1 didn't sleep through till he was nearly 2, it was pure hell. Massive sympathy to all of you who have similar.

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ZebraZeebra · 11/08/2015 19:46

My ds between six months when I first started putting him upstairs to bed and about 13 months when he night weaned himself would wake maybe every 45 minutes through the evening. It fucked me off so much! I didn't care about the night wake ups because we co slept and I could just roll over, latch him on and doze. But I needed that time in the evening to myself and it was so annoying.

Looks like dd is going the same way. I'm determined to be relaxed about it because I know it will pass (eventually) but I want to grumble.

grumble grumble I would take being judged and having a restful evening/night than not grumble grumble

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Writerwannabe83 · 11/08/2015 19:48

In my eyes, sleeping through means going a good 10+ hours without waking.

WishITookLifeSeriously · 11/08/2015 19:49

Ds is 9 in 2 weeks. There has only been one day in his life that he didn't wake me up in the middle of the night at least once!
On the other hand, dd is 6 and sleeps for 13 hours a night and has done since she was 12 weeks old.

mumofboyo · 11/08/2015 19:49

Mine slept through from around 8-10 weeks. I don't think it was anything we did other than not rushing to them when they stirred at night (please don't think we left them to cry; during the night we waited until they actually woke up and cried before feeding them because we found that they'd often stir and wriggle for a bit and then go back to sleep. We wasted so many bottles of milk because they'd gone back off by the time it was made/cooled).
They were also formula fed - I don't know if that makes a difference.

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