Super clingy 4 month old HELP!

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My DD is 4 1/2 months old. She is almost exclusively breast fed apart from the occasional bottle. She is a poor sleeper and for my sanity we co-sleep, which actually I quite enjoy! But she wakes frequently and requires nursing back to sleep. She is not an easy baby but the two of us have lots of fun. My OH is a teacher and I was so looking forward to this summer holiday because I thought it would be a great opportunity for the two of them to bond more and spend some quality time together. However she's become so clingy recently and if anything it's getting worse not better! She watches me if I leave the room and cries inconsolably if she's with my OH. He used to be able to rock her to sleep occasionally but now she just cries. The moment I pick her up she settles down quite quickly so it seems the only problem is that she's not with me (this occurs with other relatives too). My OH is struggling with feelings of resentment toward her and I'm worried he may get PND as he is prone to depression anyway, though not currently on medication. What can I do to help her and him get on better?! Is this just very early separation anxiety?
TIA.

I didn't want to read and run, it feels like there's a story behind that but I have a positive story so it might reassure you.
My DS was exactly like that at 4mo. All he wanted was me. Also, my DH was still quite awkward with him, not picking on clues, feeling inadequate.
Then DH started taking DS in the sling when we were out, I showed him this website about cues and he took the 6-9am shift taking care of DS.
Now at 7mo, I'm the one feeling left out sometimes! DS will squeek with pleasure when DH gets back from work.
It's just an age thing + getting more involved without you around,don't worry.

Thank you I'll show him that. Great idea about the sling too x

Circa 4 months is a rough time for growth spurts/sleep regressions and general clinginess - it will get better! We use woven wraps and DH has his own - it was, and still is, amazing for settling DS even at his most gribbly :) it will get better, promise!

Definitely get DH to use a sling!

Have you looked at the wonder weeks, google it as this could be one of those if she is around 19 weeks

Could you wear one of DH's tshirts for a bit so when he wears it and cuddles her she can still smell you for reassurance?

I have a 6mth who is tied at my hip. Can't go for a wee without a headache!! Cries whenever I leave the room.. She's a very big girl always was (9pound9 baby) so getting a very bad back! I'm there with you!!