Grrrr, so cross!

[12yeargap]

My DS 11 participates in an amateur drama group, which he enjoys.

last night, an adult vaguely connected with the group, who teaches dance, told him he was talented enough to audition for the Billy Elliott musical, and she would get him the details of the next audition - without consulting me!

How thoughtless is that, to get his hopes up about some thing that is, to say the least, unlikely and impractical.

He's good, but not that good. I want him to enjoy his drama and dance, not be a child star. even if he auditioned successfully, the disruption to family life and his education would be horrendous, We don't want to relocate from the North to London!

I feel this woman had absolutely no right to fill my son's head with this without mentioning it to me first, I really hate seeing him disappointed in anything, but for God's sake, if I'd wanted this for him I would have seen to it myself!

Well, if you would refuse to let him do it, even if he got through the audition, then tell him so right now!

At 11 he's old enough to understand that there are more important things in life, and you're right- relocating to London isn't practical (his fees certainly wouldn't pay your mortgage for example!)

It's better that he's a bit disappointed now, than possibly getting through to the next stage, then not being able to be in the show.

Why don't you explain the impracticalities of the situation to your ds and then see whether he would like to audition anyway,if that's possible for you, knowing that he couldn't take it further than that. I would think that the audition itself would be a heck of an experience for its own sake. No harm in letting your son know what's available out there even if it's not possible at the moment.
Did the woman mention it to him, knowing he would tell you and is she now expecting you to enquire further (for or against the idea)? Have you spoken to her about it?

No, haven't spoken to her, it may just have been a throwaway remark for all I know, but you know how kids pick up on an idea and run with it.