Whens the right time for another baby?

[yummymummylu]

Hi am really trying to get some advice. I know it sounds silly but already wanting to add to my family!
My 1st baby is 3months old and already I want another, am I mad?
I realise that it would be hard but just wondered what others views were on short age gaps?
I had a good 2hour labour and so count myself as very lucky, maybe this is the reason as to why I want another so quick?
My partner wants to have another when were ready. Am I selfish to want to start trying asap?
Would be grateful for others views?

Well...I have personal experience with a 6 1/2 year agegap, which was probably a bit to big, and a 21 month agegap, which I really regrett...I feel that ms had to grow up far to quick, and that I never had enough time for non of my Kids...I should have waited till he is a bit older and enjoy his Baby and Toddlertime before having another...but hohum, hindsight tis a great thing, eh!

not mad to want another..I wanted another from DS being 5mins old. However we got pg when he was 12mths lost baby so had to retry and ended up with a 2,2yr gap. Now pg again and DD will be 12mths when baby is born. Like lockets we wanted all our children to be at same level/age so doing things together should technically be easier..so working it out got pg when Dd was 3mths.

Thanks for your advice, has really helped. I now know that if I can cope and want another then I should start trying!! LOL!

Am going to speak to the other half and convince him that we should try to get the right age gap!

Thank you again it really made me think about what I want.

xxx

Hiya,

Just thought i'd add.

I got pg with my 2nd dd when my 1st was only 4 month's old. We planned it that way, they are 14 months apart and I love it. They are so close and have a special bond.

I have just had my 3rd dd (she is 19 weeks), there is a 3 year age gap between her and dd2. I am trying to convince dh to try for another now so that we have a similer age gap between them.

I'd say go for it if that's what you want. Best of luck!

No right or wrong here - my dd is 8 (9 in Jan) and ds is 11 weeks. She absolutely adores him and is so hands on and helpful we call her mini-mum! I did not choose that gap, mother nature did but now that I have a gap that big I wouldn't have it any other way. Life is great . If you want another one now - go for it but prepare for the ensuing chaos

When you feel ready, I would say. If you feel up to it and it's what you want then I can't see any reason why not?

i have just under a 13 month age gap between my dd3 and dd4 I think its a lot of fun.

I dont think your being selfish at all, lets face it if we all waited for the 'right' time to have a baby i dont think anyone ever would.

If your ready mentally go for it, no one can tell you what its really like we are all different people.

I had a 23 month gap between dd1 and dd2 but she passedaway, I then would have had a 18 month gap between dd2 and dd3, i then had just under 13 months between dd3 and dd4 and 3.3 years between dd4 and ds. I love the smaller age gaps.

My oldest is 8 and my youngest is 7 months and im only 25 lol

Isn't it not great for the mum's body and health though, having less than 18 months between pregnancies?
My son will be nearly 4 by the time we have this one (in January); I would have preferred a slightly smaller gap but certainly no less than 3 years! But that's me!

I was mega broody at 3 months, but tiredness really kicks in at 6 months + and im glad i waited. Honestly, id wait - its hard, I know!, but babies can change their patterns and suddenly all you want is just a few hours sleep!

All babies go weird at 4 months. Personally I would wait until you are over that hump, early pregnancy and a baby who suddenly starts being odd - not a good time.

I felt the same at that age, as mine was so settled and we were all so loved up. HOWEVER!....with teething, crawling, lack of sleep etc i'm giving 21wk old DS all my love and attention for now and we're waiting for about 3 years (and may well adopt next aswell)

It's totally your choice, but remember, the next one may not be as 'good'

skerriesmum it takes two years for your body to recover from having a baby and for everything to go back into the right place...