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Ds says everyone hates him

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rickman · 22/11/2006 20:22

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rickman · 22/11/2006 20:42

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laneydaye · 22/11/2006 20:45

He probably thinks it will get him out of going! Maybe have a word with his teacher to see if everything is ok, the lunchtime staff report any kids who play alone for long periods, its probably just a faze..
Everything will be fine youll see..xx

dinny · 22/11/2006 20:50

So stressful - no suggestions except speaking to teacher. dd keeps saying no-one will play with her at school can't bear it.

How old is your ds?

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rickman · 22/11/2006 21:16

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tinkymummy · 22/11/2006 21:39

rickman how awful. Good advice about speaking to teacher, but make sure your ds has lots of other things going on so it only seems like one part of his life is not that great. Distractions galore in the form of trips out, after-school activities (that might bring new friends) and other ego-boosing non-school-related fun, and lots of reassurance from you, might help him deal with his feelings.

Hope the situation improves.

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rickman · 22/11/2006 21:44

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tinkymummy · 22/11/2006 21:59

Either way, putting it on or not, he needs delicate treatment. What a shame about that boy at beavers. Do you know the mum? Do you think she would respond well to a talk?

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rickman · 22/11/2006 22:04

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WhizzBangCaligula · 22/11/2006 22:08

Rickman, being excluded from play is a recognised form of bullying, so if you speak to his teacher, she'll take it seriously.

This happened to my DS last term, and it has all blown over now. No thanks to the school who were fairly crap about it, but as your DS is 6 and still in the infants, they'll sort it out.

dinosaur · 22/11/2006 22:13

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tinkymummy · 22/11/2006 22:14

It's probably because he is sensitive and emotional that he gets bullied, as other kids seem to be able to smell that it will have an effect on such kids. The other kids are probably falling in with this ring-leader because they would rather it was someone else them themselves that gets this unpleasant attention.

Why not try the school first, find out what the teachers know and what they can do to help, and if that doesn't work, perhaps take a deep breath and try the mum? Lots of teachers take bullying seriously and it's easier to deal with at 6 than 16.

A big hug for you, and an even bigger one for you LO.

tinkymummy · 22/11/2006 22:15

just wanted to add that this kind of thing happening to you is the down-side of being a sensitive and emotional creature, and there are some wonderful upsides for your son to enjoy, too.

opinionsrus · 23/11/2006 20:55

Haven't had a first hand experience of this myself, but I think that if that were me I would make an appointment with the teachers like a shot.

Don't just leave it there either, at first call up every week or every other week just to that they know that you are serious about it. Let the school know that you mean business!!!

opinionsrus · 23/11/2006 20:58

I mean just a kind of follow up thing - not to hassle them of course!

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rickman · 23/11/2006 21:30

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laneydaye · 24/11/2006 16:21

Hope your lo has a lovely weekend and everything goes back to normal for him monday...
Now the teachers know im sure anything at all will be sorted out asap..x

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