sex after episiotomy

[jessica3692]

Hi ladies,

I had my daughter 6m ago and needed an episiotomy and forceps.

my partner and I attempted sex 6wks after her birth but it felt very tender. I had to have my back passage examined due to anal fissure a while after and doc also had a quick check down there. OUCH! All was fine at first but she twisted her finger and damn that hurt! She didn't want to use the tool they use for smears to examine me further due to the pain and prescribed me with some cream assuming my scar internally was infected.

We left it till about 4m and wow did sex hurt about an inch or two in! This was missionary but we tried spooning hoping that would help. It seemed better for a little why (just gradually easing in) and then once again came this awful stabbing sensation. Saw doc again and she said she would need to carry out a thorough inspection by using said smear tool. I was not mentally prepared and refused as feeling that sensation more than once might make me pass out! She said to leave it till 6m if that would make me feel better and because many women heal naturally by this point.

we're going to try again soon but does anyone one have any similar (and hopefully reassuring) stories to share?

p.s I know it wasn't a problem of being dry and tense.

thank you! :(

I'm only just feeling "normal" down there while having sex. My DC is 13 months old.

I also had a 3rd degree tear behind my episiotomy so I don't know if that made it worse.
Sorry if that wasn't the news you wanted

I had episiotomy and forceps and DTD without pain (and lots of lube) at 6 weeks postpartum. I suspect your pain is more to do with the fissure than the cut/bruising, especially if it's a few inches in, so you might be better asking how long that is likely to take to heal before it's pain free?

I had an episiotomy and also had a fissure and it took 8 months to start to really enjoy sex again with no pain.

I'll be honest we went out and got pretty plastered before trying after 4 months. Was tender then but gradually got better each time. It's hard because you feel like your anticipating pain all the time and tense up but relaxing as much as you can really helps

I had episiotomy & forceps and also an anal fissure. We didn't even attempt until 5m as my episiotomy stitches were infected early on and the scar ached until over 4m post partum so I wasn't even approaching ready until then.

It hurt, and it hurt for the next few goes. Lots of lube needed until that scar tissue got used to stretching a bit (no natural stretch capacity unlike normal vaginal tissue).

I had an episiotomy, 2nd degree tear and forceps and my situation sounded just like yours.DD has just turned 1 and it's only recently that sex has stopped hurting so it may just take more time. Doesn't stop me anticipating the pain yet though!