Why is my 2yo girl embarrassed about having nappy changed?

[atlasthebrute]

She shouts 'NO!' if I ask her if she's done a poo and say we should change the nappy. She gets very cross and tries to run away. We've never made a fuss about changing her nappies. We are very gentle and try to use distraction methods when undertaking the task, so why does she get so worked-up? She had nappy rash over the summer and we tried going without nappies, but she got confused and was clearly not ready for training. I would say she still isnt ready for potty training, as she can't tell me when she's ready to go and the fact that she gets so distressed. Why is she like this and what can I do?

Can I tentatively suggest she is 2 years old and 2 is a well known age for children to start testing the boundaries and being awkward where before they were compliant?

I would almost definitely put her behaviour down to being 2 rather than being embarrassed.

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Absolutely nothing to do with embarrassment .... am wondering why you would think that tbh ...
Has everything to do with saying 'NO' because she has worked out that she can ... I have 'No' said to me for everything, from nappy changing to putting socks on, to getting into the car ... of course I have a big loud, "YES" if I ask her if she wants to have an ice block or a biscuit

My dd used to regularly, cheerfully, lie through her teeth about nappy changes! She'd say no it didn't need changing, despite the whiff, she would also ask for it to be changed when it didn't need it if she wanted to nosy around someone else's house! Don't think it's to do with embaressment.

Thanks everyone - glad to hear she's not the only toddler to do this. It's hard when she seems to be the only one her age to still be in nappies, and to be so darn difficult about it!

DS (22 months) does this half the time - if he doesn't fancy having his nappy changed he'll flaatly deny the merest possibility of poo (even when the smell is causing passers-by to swoon in the street outside) and leg it in the opposite direction, then kick up an enormous fuss about anyone trying to undo any of his clothing to change the nappy. Other times he'll proudly announce "poo" and go and lie down on the changing mat . It's all part of being two, I think...

She's far from being the only one still in nappies, so don't project your embarrasment onto her ! They train when they're ready - one of mine was 2y 10m, one was 3y 4m.

It's deffinitely a compliance/independance issue. Don't ask her any more, just do it and make a little jolly fuss of her afterwards.

My DS2 will say someone else did the poo in his nappy. I don't know why, but he's been doing it for ages.

My daughter does this, and I do believe there is an element of embarrassment. She will happily have her nappy changed when it's just wet but if you ask her to do it after she's done a poo she gets upset till the dirty nappy is off of her. She will tell you no when she has done a poo and say yuk. We've also not made a pig deal of nappy change she and not once told her she's yuk

Definitely her age! Can one of her toys help you change her? This works for us with almost everything..brushing teeth. Eating meals.. everything except washing her hair!