tell me about your bigger than you wanted age gaps

[SandmanSlim]

DC2 is not currently happening. Original plan was for a 2-3 year gap but DD1 is already 4. Please make me feel better by telling me nice stories about your larger age gaps.

My friend was born when her sister was 14 and her brother 12. They've always all been extremely close. When she was born, the siblings were still at the age where babysitting was relatively new and fun and her parents got a lot of free care out of it. She and her sister talked every day (or at least close to it). Her sister moved to the other side of the country (USA) and she often went to visit for a week or two by herself, she felt very independent. She would also visit her brother who lived closer a lot. All three had (and still have) a very close relationship so no matter how big your dc's age gap happens to be, it will resolve itself among time, if not right away.

Thanks for this thread! I was going to start a similar thread as I am having a difficult time with my 2 at the moment. DD1 is 7.5 and DD2 is 2.5 and we are in the middle of school hols (in Scotland ). They are bickering all the time at the moment it's exhausting! DD2 is a very active toddler who is very hard work and DD1 likes her own space and finds her little sister annoying. I don't blame her as DD2 keeps getting in to Dd1s room and taking her toys and scribbling on her drawings. Dd1 was far from happy when I told her I was pregnant and it hasn't changed much! She tolerates her mostly but can be helpful at times.
My concern is that they will never really get along and it will always be hard to do things that they both enjoy together. This thread gives me some hope!

6 years between my sister and I. we are really close, there was never competition between us growing up. the gap was down to fertility problems.