For maternity and stay at home mummies - do you ever get tired of "but I wor" from hubby?

[jessica3692]

My parter is a good dad but sometimes very frustrating. He doesn't understand that being a mum can be difficult. My daughter is 5 months and at a stage of getting bored easily making it increasingly difficult to do house work. On those tough days he has come home asking "what have you done all day?" patronisingly. Somehow I always manage to make him fresh home made meals daily and yet if he doesn't have any lunch at work and I ask why, it's because I haven't made any for him. Why do I have to? Because "I work". I breastfeed and asked theoretically if I switched to formula would you help with night feeds. "Only on Friday and Saturday".

What really annoys me is at one point before our daughter I was working (always have until LO) and he was unemployed and I still manage to do more now with a baby than he ever did!

Anyone else's fella the same? I'm sure he thinks I sit around with my feet up drinking tea all day!

Yeah, there's always someone to pop up with the exceptions. It's the law of bulletin boards.

Pretty sure I'm not the only one who has a DH who doesn't find it difficult to visualise all the unseen things you have been doing all day.
He knows exactly what I've been doing all day. Looking after our daughter.

Gin utter nonsense. Men are perfectly capable of inferring things that happen in their absence (if you want to be sexist traditional about it, isn't that why they're often in management or strategic roles? It's just that in the last 50 years it's been widely recognised women also do this). And the whole 'touchy' woman thing - tbh it's usually women putting up with a hell of a lot of shit and putting a brave face on. Again even in sexist traditional popular culture this is a trope, e.g. 'stand by your man' or the world weary wife of a feckless husband.

From really early on I have gone out for whole day (cut and colour followed by lunch, followed by a bit of shopping...), so no, DH never gets back home from work and ask what I have done all day.

I have occasionally gone away for the weekend on my own too so he knows how busy it is. Actually he has said in the past that he is off to work for a rest from it all!