When do boys wee standing up?

[hippmummy]

My son is 3.3 and has been toilet trained for some time (since 2.6). He still wees sitting down, sometimes with a toilet seat and sometimes without.

His preschool have suggested he should learn to wee standing up as he has had a few wet trousers where it leaks over the loo. Apparantley they aren't used to boys sitting down!

Can you tell me at what age your boys started to stand up and any tips for encouraging him - he's very reluctant at the mo!

thanks

I reckon they learn more from their peers at this age.

Could pre-school encourage him to go when others are going and when he sees his mates standing up, he'll eventually want to copy.

And if you go out with friends, toddler groups etc, get him to go with other boys. It will eventually sink in.

DS,now 3.5, started when we let him wee in the garden in the summer, I think he quite enjoyed that.

If he watches your dp, I think that helps too.

Also you can try putting cheerios and fairy liquid in the bowl so he can play target practice or bubble making.

I can't believe the nursery don't have other boys who sit down. He'll do it when he's ready.

Both ds1 and ds2 learnt when they started at preschool - around 3. Put a pingpong ball in and turn it into a game. Have dad around as a role model. And get the reschool to do the "training".

Mine does now - has done since he was about 10mo.

In his nappy though.

BTW, I've had similar wet trouser problem with my ds. Are they telling him to tuck his willy in - that's surely all that needs to happen.

I wouldn't worry, he'll do it when he's ready. My DS preferred sitting down for ages and had more accidents with wet trousers from standing TBH.

mine wee-ed standing up outdoors, we get a lot of out doors time over here, proud as a peacock since he was toilet training which was at 22 months

now weeing standing up at the lav is when you can be arsed to wipe up the spillage or when they are tall enough not to dribble on the rim

DS does both and IME he has just as many accidents with wet patches etc standing up as sitting down.

Standing up the wee sometimes goes over the side of the bowl and wets him, for e.g.

I agree about peer influence and watching Daddy?

It was that which prompted DS, he just wanted to copy DH.

thanks for tips!

Teacher did ask today if I minded if she helped him tuck his willy in when he sits down - of course I don't! Sad that she had to ask though.

Will get DH to help with this too - sounds like the best plan

I work at a pre school and if the boys sit down I always say.. "don't forget to tuck mr willy in" I have helped tuck them in before but I prefer not to!

Ds (2.10) has just started wanting to do this (because daddy does) and I'm trying my best to discourage it because it's so flipping messy!! He has no control over where it goes at all and the ping pong trick made it worse because he was swinging it all over the place trying to hit it .

He also gets wet trousers when he sits down because he doesn't drop his bum down far enough so the first gush spurts out horizontally and goes in between the gap under the seat - maybe that's what he's doing?

Glad I found this thread. MIL keeps implying Ds should be standing up and I should have trained him this way from the beginning. Have only been training since OCtober half term and we have had over a week of dry days, poos always on the loo. For the last 7 days as well he has been using the toilet with seat only wherever he is. But ds still always says "do a poo" even when he means wee. So think i'm going to carry on with the sitting on until I know he is certain whether he is weeing or pooing. He definitely knows he needs to go to the toilet anyway.

My ds is just 4 and sometimes does sit down and sometimes stand up wees

He learnt in the late summer from watching dh but mainly once he started pre school and they have an enormous urinal (takes up one wall) so he just did what the other boys did!

We used to have the wet trousers problem so at home bought a very cheap toilet seat and took off the pads that hold it off the rim of the bowl so there was no gap - worked a treat!!

Have put the original back on now as he has learnt to sit back and down and is strong enough to hold himself up better.

my ds1 preferred o sit down until he was about 6 - and I preferred it to as no mess from the misses.

a lot of boys at his nursery sat down - follows on naturally from sitting on a potty

Tell them to tell him to remember to put his penis pointing down the hole. Hardly rocket science.

Standing up does not mean dry trouser and often means wet shoes as well.

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Dior - I once had a boyfriend who sat down sometimes - esp if he'd been drinking

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DS2 was 2 in October and he always pees standing.

Strange you soon forget about this kind of thing! My youngest DS is now 9. I'm sure all of my 5 DSs were weeing standing up from around 3 years old. They all copied DH and older brothers I think.
I did notice that in the boys toilet in reception there is a ping pong ball floating in the loo! Boys are encouraged to aim at it! I wish I'd thought of that.

Ds is three and prefers standing up - caught on to it back in the summer, seeing his slightly-older friends doing 'garden' wees. Doesn't make a mess standing up - he just puts his willy on the rim of the loo (which I keep clean). A technique he chose and insists on! Part of the secret to dry trousers is the stance - you have to get them to arch their backs and push their groin out (this may be obvious to everyone else but I had never considered the mechanics of male urination - another friend kindly explained this to me).

Ds1 is 5 and still sits down to wee - he's happy and it makes less mess so I'm happy . Is happy to wee in some bushes though if we get caught short with no toilet in sight when on a walk though, so that's good