When did you first leave baby?

[snarferson]

This has probably been asked before but when did you first leave your baby?

My story is I've been invited on a night out next weekend to see a band but my baby will only be 6 weeks 5 days old. I really want to go as i like the music and had a horrendous pregnancy and never went anywhere but I am equally terrified of leaving her and feel full of guilt at the thought. She would be left for about 5 to 6 hours with FIL who adores her (we only have 2 parents left between us, FIL and DM who I would trust more in this situation but unfortunately has brain cancer so can't babysit) .

I don't know what to do. What would you all do? And what have people done in a similar situation?

Glad to read that you've decided to go!
I was just coming on to say that with both of mine I left them for the 1st time at around 6 weeks and felt no guilt. With dd, our youngest, we had no choice really because we moved house. It was November, the coldest night of the year to that point and the gas hadn't been switched on in our new house so it was cold and damp - no place for a newborn baby who'd just come out of hospital with bronchiolitis!
Your night out sounds like it's going to be a lot more fun than that and I hope you enjoy it! Life doesn't have to stop just because you're a parent

I first left DS with my PIL when he was about 4 months old. PIL only live 30 houses away on the same street and he was only going to be there for an hour but I was bedside myself. As me and DH walked away after dropping him off I was in tears.

I then didn't leave him again until he was 6 months old and I left him with my dad for about three hours whilst I had a hospital appointment. I was fine with that

Going back to work when DS was 10 months was hard as he was with a childminder and I really, really missed him. For the first week or so I cried as I drove to work

He's now 14 months and I have very recently been away from him overnight for the first time but only because he was with his dad. My DH keeps making light hearted comments about sending DH to have a sleepover with I've of his grandparents but I don't think I'm ready for that yet.

I'm pretty sure I'm in the minority though, lol

My sister on the other hand left her baby overnight with the PIL when he was only 6 weeks old. Everyone is different.

Do not worry what anyone else may think or say, it's nothing to do with them.

Five to six hours really isn't long at all and it seems like you really want to go so you should and then make sure you have a fantastic time

I left DD at 4 weeks to go to a funeral, my mum looked after her and then bought her along to the wake, which was lovely. I also left her with my mum at 6 weeks to go to a friends 40th but it was within walking distance.

We left her overnight again with my mum at 11 months and she'll be off to grandma's again very soon as ,#2 is due any day.

My sister left her DD with my mum at 12 days to go to a wedding, about an hours drive away, they did ceremony, meal, cake etc and left after first dance.

If you feel happy there is no right or wrong time