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Potty trainng going backwards. Really have enough now!

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Pitchounette · 14/11/2006 14:23

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Pitchounette · 14/11/2006 15:35

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Pitchounette · 14/11/2006 21:54

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kittywits · 14/11/2006 22:35

Hello, I have been/am in the sameish boat as you.
I have a 5 year old dd who still waits until the last second before she hobbles off to the loo and is often a bit wet. Her younger sister(just three) also took herself out of nappies at 2 but has taken a whole year to get the hang of things and is still in them at night.

I have tried various tactics, sad, angry, disappointed, but actually the most successful, although hardest for me, has been to absolutely ignore accidents. If the girls point them out I say something like"oh never mind, better luck next time" and if they are wet and say nothing neither do I.
Being this way has really helped them to be drier.

It does annoy me when I see them putting off going, but I know that it IS tedious for them and they are only little and can't always gauge when is too late.

So my advice is to praise when dry and when he's reached the loo in time and make light of or ignore the times he doesn't.
He could be getting anxious about mking you cross, I know my girls were and I feel very about it.
My boys on the other hand were a doddle to train, can't work that one out . Good luck

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Pitchounette · 15/11/2006 09:01

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GoingQuietlyMad · 15/11/2006 09:30

Hi pitchounette

I am having the similar problems with dd1 who is 3.2yo. She was fully potty trained and going by herself without any prompting or even mentioning it to me.

Then suddenly she was having accidents all the time and never being able to hold it in. Combined with a complete refusal to ever sit on the toilet/potty, with tantrums every time.

DH was absolutely furious with her, and started instilling Victorian style discipline (when he was around), which didn't work and made the whole house a nightmare for us all.

In the end, I took her favourite slippers away until she could stay dry for a day, and introduced chocolate buttons for every wee, with two for a poo (yes that is terrible, I have never resorted to bribery before, but was at the end of my tether).

This was combined with putting her on the toilet every hour, and trying to get her excited about the chocolate buttons. "I wonder if there will be a wee and then we can have a chocolate button".

Eventually, two weeks later, she is starting to get there. We have had no accidents for a couple of days, and she is much less reluctant to sit on the toilet/potty. It is still a pain, but I can see that it is going to get there.

Every child is different, but I hope if nothing else, you will realise you are not alone. This is so common - I have posted on at least 3 different threads over the past 3 weeks!

kittywits · 15/11/2006 13:03

Also don't forget to investigate a possible infection.
It happened to one of my dds, she had a horrible wee infection, never complained of pain, just lost contol of her bladder. I was cross with her for wetting herself then felt more rotton than I can begin to describe when it turned out she was ill

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Pitchounette · 15/11/2006 13:37

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Pitchounette · 15/11/2006 13:40

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IamBlossom · 15/11/2006 13:54

I logged on to post a very similar thread, ecept my DS is 2.2 and only been trained for about 6 weeks. He was doing really well, so proud of him, and when he is with me he seems to ask to go, or I put him on the potty often enough but either way with me he usually avoids having accidents. At nursery two mornings a week however, we seem to be going backwards, bith sessions this week he has had numerous accidents. Do you think it is just because he is more distracted there, or they maybe don't see the cues he needs to go like I do, or is he just too little for me to be expecting this much of him? Am going to ignore the accidents he does with me though, as per advice below....

paddingtonbear1 · 15/11/2006 14:20

my dd is similar. She has been training since April but again, leaves it until the last minute and ends up with slightly wet pants. Some days are worse than others, but nothing we do seems to make much difference - so I just tend to mostly ignore it. I reckon she'd still wear pull ups if she could! She still does at night, no way I can risk that!

kittywits · 15/11/2006 14:52

Pitchounette, I would take a wee sample to the drs. I strongly advise that you do not just rely on the dip stick test that they can do.
I say this because on some occasions the dipstick has shown no infection but when sent off to the labs an infection was found. Why not ask your ds if it hurts when he has a wee. Also does he seem to be wetting very frequently but in small amounts? That can be an indication of infection also.

IamBlossom it would be pretty likely that he is distracted at nursery, so much to do that it is easy to ignore the signs of a full bladder. He is still only just into having bladder control and is very young and it normally takes a while for it to be second nature. I would expect lots of accidents until that time, espeially if he is in a new environment or having a particulryl busy time !!

GoingQuietlyMad · 15/11/2006 15:11

Yes - I haven't started any threads but just commenting on everyone else's!

Judging by how many of us there are with fairly recent threads, there must be loads of mums who have conquered this!

Help!!!

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Pitchounette · 15/11/2006 15:22

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IamBlossom · 16/11/2006 20:01

sigh. Asks me to go perfectly nicely all day then wees in the car on the way home. I think it is is when his bladder is REALLY full, he just hasn't got time to ask, do you think I should limit his drinks? One drink of juice seems to equal 8 wees, what's that all about..........?

FrayedKnot · 16/11/2006 20:13

IamBlossom try giving him water or diluting his juice more...juice esp orange can make them go loads.

Does he have juice at nursery?

Pitchounette can you go back to prompting him rather than waiting for him to tell you?

DS is 2.8 and was p/t in July. He rarely has an accident but I do still have to religiously remind him to go, he is just starting to ask a bit more in the last few weeks.

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Pitchounette · 17/11/2006 13:19

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paddingtonbear1 · 17/11/2006 13:24

Pitchounette how goes it now?
We've not had a bad week, but dd is not consistent. Some days she's really good, others we have 4 pairs of very damp pants. Sometimes I think she can't be bothered with it and leaves it till the last minute. I try and remind her but it goes:
me: 'do you want a wee'
her: 'no'
me: 'are you sure?'
her: 'mummy I don't want a wee!'
10 mins later, 'mummy i need a wee'
rushes to toilet and takes off a slightly wet pair of pants...

paddingtonbear1 · 17/11/2006 13:29

ah we must have x-posted!
It might be worth taking him to the GP, if it's not an infection at least it would rule it out.

kittywits · 17/11/2006 17:15

Pitchounette, do take him to the Gp, little children can't always tell you where it hurts, just that it hurts iyswim. Sounds like he could have an infection of sorts
My three year old has wet herself twice troday and once yesterday. i know she feels bad enough about it without me having to say anything other than 'never mind'. I know she will have good and bad days and it will all be sorted in the end. But def take him for a check up.

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Pitchounette · 19/11/2006 20:39

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SophieBull · 03/12/2006 18:44

Pitchounette,

I have been having almost exactly the same probem as you: Since you havn't posted a message for a wcouple of weeks - have you solved the problem? If so, I'd love to know how!
My little boy (3 10 days ago, and p/t since July/August) was doing really well, and suddenly about 2 wks ago he started getting little wet patches and occasional bigger accidents until in the last week we've had an almost total regression. I glimpsed some hope yesterday when we had a pretty much completely dry day following a conversation the night before about only babies wetting their pants and big boys (like him!) keeping their pants dry (backed up brilliantly by my 5 yr old daughter). But again today, back to lots of accidents.
I will take him to doctors, but any advice much appreciated.
Its such a relief to know we're not the only ones....

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