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Ds2 clambering into bed with ds1 at night - would you stop him?

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Greensleeves · 10/11/2006 20:03

DH and I have noticed over the last couple of weeks that ds2 (2.3) has been popping out of his own bed and into his brother's (4.2) at night and at napp times too (ds1 doesn't often have a nap unless he's ill or really tired). Most of the times ds1 hasn't been bothered, only once we heard him moaning "Get off, XXX, go into your own bed" but several other times we have heard them gigling/chatting together and then it all goes quiet, and then when we go in to check ds2 is curled up at the bottom of ds1's bed, like a little dog.

Should I intervene and start putting ds2 back in his own bed, or should I leave them to work out their own dynamic IYSWIM? My approach to any wrangling or bickering usually is either to stay out of it or take away the offending toy, because I do want them to be able to interact with one another (obviously if there was violence, or if one child was consistently the underdog, I would intervene, but they are quite evenly matched and they don't hit each other, they just sort of tumble about and argue)

What would you do, about the getting out of bed?

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hamstermunker · 10/11/2006 20:04

Leave 'em to it - sounds adorable!

Take pics though

Only intervene if there's likely to be bloodshed.

moondog · 10/11/2006 20:06

Leave it. Sounds lovely I agree.

Quite often wake to find my 5 year old jammed into the cot with her 2 year old brother.

tigermoth · 10/11/2006 20:09

If they are both happy and both get to sleep, I'd leave it. Perhaps it's a way that they are bonding.

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handlemecarefully · 10/11/2006 20:19

Oh it's sweet.....

I'm with the leave them to it vote too

PrincessPeaHead · 10/11/2006 20:20

Leave it.
MUCH better than him clambering into your bed and kicking you all night (as my 3 year old has suddenly started to do).

Hmmm, maybe I'll tell him to go and join his brother in bed, they share a room anyway.... [hmmm]

Mellowma · 10/11/2006 20:21

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Greensleeves · 10/11/2006 20:22

Oh good

I think it's adorable and am actually quite pleased! But I thought the MN jury might say "no, it's not fair on ds1, it's not healthy, they won't sleep properly etc etc...."

Will leave them to it

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Sheraz · 10/11/2006 20:25

DS2 and DS1 ( 6 and 3.6 ) sleep together every night. DS2 says he has bad dreams if he doesn't sleep with DS1. DS1 likes being the protector. I love it that they are so close. Let it happen they won't be like this forever. Mine sleep well together no probs.

DetentionGrrrl · 10/11/2006 21:03

Sheraz:

Aw!!!!!!!!!!! Wants more babies now.

Greensleeves · 10/11/2006 21:03

Me too

Note to self: Don't. Don't. Don't.

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DetentionGrrrl · 10/11/2006 21:04

Am torn between sensible contraception, and more babies...it's a toughie.

poppynic · 10/11/2006 21:10

Friends ds1 and ds2 are just the same. (Now aged 6 and 5.) DS1's ultimate threat to DS2 is that DS2 won't be allowed to sleep with him that night. My little brother told my Mum he was ALWAYS going to sleep with me every Christmas Eve. He did eventually stop!

Sheraz · 10/11/2006 21:13

They cutch up like little bear cubs. Would like to curl up with them if there was more room!

Ruwla · 10/11/2006 21:14

Better than crawling in with you I would say

controlfreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaky2 · 10/11/2006 21:15

my ds's 9 and 7 share a room. often end up in one bed. v sweet imo.

Sheraz · 10/11/2006 21:15

Abserlootly!

Kidstrack · 10/11/2006 21:19

my little sister (14m age gap) always climbed into bed with me and went to sleep, if she annoyed me my mum would put her back into her own bed and warn her she wouldn't get to sleep in my bed unless she behaved, in the end my mum took apart the bunk beds and put them side by side so that my sister could just rollover into my bed, i think i would intervene if the younger one was going about just winding his older brother up butits probably just his company he wants at night time

juuule · 10/11/2006 21:25

No. Why would you? Mine little ones very often didn't end up in the bed they started in. We've had a 3yo, 5yo,6yo in the same bed and 2 empty beds in the morning before now. They are now in their own beds more regularly now although the now 6yo will sometimes get in with 8yo.

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Greensleeves · 11/11/2006 09:52

ds has just come up to me and said "XXX came into my bed again, you know Mummy", and I replied "Yes, I know darling, that's because he loves you and he likes to cuddle up to you, isn't that nice?" He thought about it and then said "Yes, it is nice. But I think children should have wider beds."

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