Can I face another baby?

[housmummy]

I have a lovely little boy (2 years old). I found it vv hard when he was a baby - he cried alot and didn't sleep - still doesn't sleep consistently.

I feel really bad if he is an only child, but I don't know if I can face going through all that again. I like my sleep, but this feels really selfish. My partner is not that keen, but he goes with the flow.

I am becoming obsessed by how many children people have and wonder how do they come back for more?!

I'm not sure that thinking about having another is really a sign that you actually do want one. I did think that - we were trying somewhat haphazardly for another, with me feeling as though the pressure was on because I'm 39 so if we were going to do it, then it had to be now. And then I conceived. I wasn't fantastically happy to be pregnant, despite it being planned. And now that my symptoms have all but disappeared and it looks as though a m/c is on the way, I don't feel the sadness tinged with relief I thought I would - rather, it's relief tinged with sadness. I guess what I'm saying is that just because 2 children are the norm, sometimes your family can be complete with just the 3 of you. (DS was an easy baby btw, but a shockingly bad sleeper. Still not great now. I suspect that has coloured my views on having a second child.)

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