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jegular · 28/04/2015 20:24

Hi all,please put my mind at ease..my husband is worried we won't cope in a 1 bed flat-i think well be fine..as we are first time parents it would be great to be given advice.i think we can have the baby in our room to begin and then in the lounge-he's worried we can't then chill out and watch TV but surely the baby can cope with some noise and should get used to the noise??

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Solasum · 02/05/2015 20:49

We cope fine in a one-bed, DS is nearly 18mo. As long as you have a comfortable sofa, you don't need to make too many sacrifices Wink

He goes to bed in the bedroom, then evening is for adults. I like waking in the night and hearing him. Not everyone's cup of tea, though.

Re putting baby in living room, as PP have said, I don't see how this would work at all. Once mobile, you just wouldn't be able to get them to go to sleep if you were doing things in the room. A sofa bed for the adults definitely could, though.

The one thing I would say is that you need LOTS of storage.

gingerbreadmam · 02/05/2015 20:53

sorry to hi-jack thread but im glad you posted. is your 1bed flat roomy?

im nearly 16wks pregnant. dp and i rent a 1 bed flat. i just cnt envisage us coping here with a baby but dont know if im over thinking it.

i know we only need 1 bedroom at first but u literally walk in our front room. the bedroom is to the left the kitchen to the right and the bathroom joined on to the kitchen.

i dont even know where we could keep a pram or any toys. our bedroom is almost jam packed theres no room in the bathroom to bath and dress a baby and i cnt even think where we would store a steriliser. do u think it is just that our flat is small or if we had to we could make do?

RabbitSaysWoof · 02/05/2015 20:54

If there is room for a cot bed in your bedroom isn't that fine until about 4 years old? People co sleep and still find adult time so surely a cot in your room is not different.
I would rather keep a lounge as a lounge or you will feel sent to your room when baby is in bed.

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RabbitSaysWoof · 02/05/2015 21:02

GingerBread are your ceilings high? can you store upwards?
and if you get things as you need them you will be for example outing bouncy chair as high chair is bought in, and in with some more space consuming toys as walkers are not needed.
I used to store my baby bath inside my actual bath, and read the thread if you can find it from maybe a week ago about the things not really needed.

gingerbreadmam · 02/05/2015 21:07

our ceilings are really hight but apart from our two wardrobes and a small understairs cupboard that houses our dryer there is no other storage space. were a bit limited in the bedroom as there is an issue with damp and so we need to kp certain parts of the bedroom walls clear to prevent our things getting damp / mouldy.

were trying to move but for struggling at the min with something coming up in budget that we wouldnt have to put a lot of money into. saw a 2bed street house the other day and apart from the extra bedroom it was marginally bigger than ours and again no storage space and i felt like we'd still struggle for space.

Solasum · 02/05/2015 21:57

Gingerbread in your position I would really try to move to a non-damp flat, even if it is a one bed. You will be spending a lot of time at home with the baby, and damp is really not healthy to live with.

Some of my friends have a ceiling mounted pulley systems for their pram. I can really recommend city jogger mini, which collapses down really small and is ok from birth.

gingerbreadmam · 02/05/2015 22:11

we are hopeful to move. as it gets closer to the time we might take something even if it isnt ideal. i am scared of making the same mistake again tho.

the issue we have with our current place is that it is a private arrangement with family so although we have made them aware of the damp theyve done nothing about it. im just at the point now where i am desperate to move but its kind of impossible when theres nowhere to move to.

Cupoftchaiagain · 02/05/2015 22:20

Gingerbread the space u can make work i'm sure but the damp sounds a problem. CAn u move?

gingerbreadmam · 02/05/2015 22:34

we can move. we will have to tighten our belts for the rise in rent. we just need to find somewhere we are happy with.

weve viewed three houses so far which on paper orrightmove seem fine but when viewed are quite different.

house 1 is on a very rough street with a garage on the back which meets and alley with no residential properties on the other side. kinda seems like asking for trouble and we dont need a garage. nowhere near as nice in rl as on pics and slightly over our comfortable budget stretch.

house 2 is in budget. not ideal location but could live with it. mega steep stairs. marginally bigger than what we have now and again decoration / flooring not the best and id rather not have to spend on that.

house 3 we havent viewed yet. slightly over budget but not by much. newly decorated and carpeted throughout and new central heating system. it does only have single glazing and is an old street house with high ceilings etc so im scared bills would be high. my dps live on same street and i know theyre gas bills r ridiculous. old tenants left because of damp. apparently new heating should cure this but is that likely?

FishWithABicycle · 03/05/2015 08:02

We had a one room place with our PFB until the age of 2yo. The plan had been that we'd get the place into a saleable condition, sell it, and move house during my 9 months of maternity leave. That didn't quite work out. We were fine though. It was lovely to have our own room back when we finally moved.

gingerbreadmam · 03/05/2015 09:31

ive cursed myself talking about moving on here. just been woken by tap tap tapping. water is leaking through the roof from all the rain.

had best plans not to do anything at all today now going to have to get onto to the landlord and give the house a good clean for them coming round.

justwondering72 · 04/05/2015 14:02

We have a 2 bed but all slept in one room until DS1 was around 5, DS2 was around 2. Then we finally sorted out the play / spare / other room as a bedroom for them. It was totally doable in the early years.

  1. We have big rooms (just not many of them!), so we weren't clambering over cots and beds in our shared bedroom. We had space to have a superking bed, with an open cot on one side and a single on the other. So we all had plenty of room to sleep.
  2. We were fine with cosleeping for a long time. DS1 especially benefitted from it, and it made BFing a lot easier.
  3. For couple time, we had the living room ;) and a sofa bed in the spare room.

They are 4 and 7 now, and we are all happy in our own rooms. I know I'll get jumped on for saying this, but most of the world sleeps close to their children and in a helluva a lot less space than we have got used to in the UK. We spent some time in Japan some years ago - it really changes your perspective of how much space a family 'needs' as opposed to 'wants' when you see how other people live with so much less.

NorahBone · 05/05/2015 09:00

We have an 18mo in a tiny flat. We intended to move by now, but are coping ok. The bedroom is just for sleeping, his cot is crammed beside our bed and if he wants milk in the night he just climbs over the cot rail! He's still in the baby bath too because we only have a shower.

gingerbreadmam · 05/05/2015 09:28

i know i didnt originally start the thread but all your stories are really helping me. we saw a small house to rent last week but i felt we'd have similar problems but now its looking like a really good stepping stone so in going to give them a call now! Grin thank you!

Cupoftchaiagain · 05/05/2015 19:18

Good luck gingerbread!

gingerbreadmam · 05/05/2015 19:47

thanks. got a second viewing tomo evening.

struggling as there is a three bed coming up only 25 more per month and i feel would be better space wise but i know the last tennants left because of damp. they have replaced the central heating and decorated throughout so its now looking lovely but i dont know whether the damp will re-appear? also single glazed windows.

any advice? dp thinks the 3 bed is too big (it is an old street house with high ceilings etc).

Artandco · 05/05/2015 21:21

We live in a 1 bed flat with our now 5 and 4 year olds. It's fine. We chose location over space. Means we are minutes from parks/ museums/ everything in London.

We had children in cotbeds until recently, and have just bought a bunk bed but they would have fitted in cot beds another 2 years easily.

We are just beginning to look at a 2 bed if it comes up but in no rush.

All that baby 'stuff' in mothercare etc? Don't buy any. Use what you already have, sink to wash baby, normal towel, no bouncer/ walker/ large toys.

gingerbreadmam · 06/05/2015 09:32

oh art you make it sound so easy. i think our problem is we have so much junk. i kind of keep hold of clothes for a long time, shoes too. when we move this time i am definitely getting rid of a lot of it. i will have to buy new as and when needed.

my dp has about 6 guitars too which take up quite a lot of room and as he is now teaching brings lots of work home so that doesnt help as its another thing to store.

we will figure something out.

alittleegglayonaleaf · 06/05/2015 09:52

We had a 1 bedroom flat until dd1 was 1 - it was a bit of a nightmare but we managed... she never learned to sleep thtough any noise so it was a sleepless period of my life

Artandco · 06/05/2015 10:37

Also a huge bonus, if the children wake before you they are contained in your room so you know what they are up to when small. We have a sheepskin rug on floor with cushions to lean on and basket of books and small play animals etc ( quiet things), when they woke they knew they could turn night light on next to cushion area and play/ read until everyone else is up. On weekends they wake around 8am and play together here now until 10am or so happily, whilst dh and I sleep/ read in bed/ catch up on work in bed.

Regarding stuff it's easy to get rid of if ruthless tbh. Apart from seasonal things like ski clothing and picnic rugs, we threw out or donated anything we hadn't used in 6 months. If we hadn't used it or worn it I figured it was better use to someone else. Start with clothing. Keep max 10 of each item, ideally less, so 10 tshirts, but prob 5 trousers plenty. Even down to socks and stuff, many people have hundreds of odd socks and stuff they don't wear. I kept a selection of socks for various climates and donated still a bag to a charity going to Syria refugee camps.

With baby stuff do the same. Max 10 of each item in that size. So if you have 14 babygrows in newborn bought or given, try and return or swap 4 for the next size, or something else like a cardigan.

With toys try and buy or ask for things that last years but store small. So no pre built castles/ dolls houses but wooden blocks or duplo Lego which can be stored in basket or cupboard or drawer and they use imagination more anyway building each thing rather than the finished result just there. Babies can use block for holding, then stacking, all the way up to children getting more imaginative as they grow.

Also I always bought stuff that blended in with home decor such and blankets, rugs, cushions as otherwise it easily turns horn into looking like a nursery quickly in small space

gingerbreadmam · 06/05/2015 11:19

thanks for all your advice art. definitely need to be ruthless.

toy tips are good too for future reference.

if we make a decision on this small 2 bed house my first task will be to start getting rid of shoes and clothes. will donate to charity. thanks.

Roseybee10 · 06/05/2015 14:26

I would say it's doable in the short term but only if you're thinking of moving within a year of the baby being born.
We're in a two bed flat with a toddler and a baby and I'm going bat sh£t crazy. Purely with the amount of stuff they have; clothes,toys etc. I don't have enough room to store everything. We have dd1 in her own room and we share with dd2 for now (she's 3 months) but desperate to move before she's 6 months as the thought of them sharing a room is not appealing and I think we'll keep waking each other if dd2 is jn with us for too long.

gingerbreadmam · 06/05/2015 14:32

thanks rosey good luck with the house hunting.

i know i would find it difficult tbh i find it difficult now with just dp and i. hope 2nd viewing goes well tonite. taking dm for second opinion so hope she likes it then i think we will go for it.

caker · 06/05/2015 14:41

We're in a 1 bed flat and DD is two. I thought we'd need to move after a year but it's fine. (Could fit another DC in easily! ) We will be moving soon though as I really wanted a garden, but I'll miss the convenience of living here with everything in the next room. I think stairs will be a nightmare, I'll spend my life running up and down unless I get organised!

gingerbreadmam · 06/05/2015 14:56

thats one thing caker i kp thinking about, the different floors. will be strange not having to walk through living room and kitchen to nip to the loo in the night Grin

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