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Preschooler squeezed newborn sibling

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fireflyz · 27/04/2015 14:30

Hi
my overexcited preschooler squeezed his 17 day old sister round the middle yesterday afternoon, she grimaced and tried to move away.
She's slept and fed well and done wees and poos since, so the GP I phoned thinks there is no cause for concern although says I'm welcome to bring her in if I'm concerned and I have an appointment for tomorrow morning just in case.
I feel terribly guilty as I was actually holding her at the time. It started off as a sweet cuddle with him putting his arms around her but then he just squeezed! Needless to say he won't be getting his arms around her again.
Has anyone else been in this situation and everything been ok?
Also any tips on how to cope with both of them at home gratefully received - my son does preschool 3 days a week but has 2 days at home with me and now I am dreading those 2 days! I don't know how I'm even going to get to the loo and get bottles washed let alone rest! I am thinking I'll take baby into the loo with me and sit her in her bouncy chair or even Moses basket if I have to, although monkey son can unlock the bathroom door from the outside! I used to feel like I didn't want to put him in preschool for any more days but am beginning to wonder if I should if there are any spaces...but don't want him to feel pushed out of the house! Any advice much appreciated!

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Heels99 · 27/04/2015 14:32

Yes you need to put baby in a sling and take everywhere. Do not leave alone with older child at all even for a second. Teach older child 'gentle hands'
Good luck!

NakedBaby · 27/04/2015 14:35

Focus on the preschooler. trowel on the attention.

Baby sister really won't mind - but he'll notice. (And you're giving baby sister the gift of a stronger sibling bond by sidestepping her becoming the butt of resentment).

NakedBaby · 27/04/2015 14:37

If you have 'childcare funds' - spend them on getting someone to take baby for an hour here or there - and give DS some 1:1 time (eg would it work to get someone to sit with baby poolside while you took DS swimming? That's my go-to 'Big Boy' activity.)

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NakedBaby · 27/04/2015 14:39

I used a wrap type sling. Baby was happy being near me - but I had two hands free for DS. (And she was 'out of sight' iyswim - so softened that sense of baby 'always' occupying mum).

NakedBaby · 27/04/2015 14:42

Be aware of your language. So make a lot of 'she loves those funny faces' or 'she loves those gentle hands' - but don't dwell on negatives (eg try not to tell him off for doing the wrong thing around baby).

And she'll be totally fine. Less thàn three weeks ago she squeezed through a much smaller space Grin

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