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What makes you cry?

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Brewster · 25/04/2015 15:52

My kids really upset me today and i ended up having a few tears ..... this got me thinking...what do other people cry about?

I don't mean life shattering terribleness things that of course make you cry but you know - the more 'trivial' everydayish things?

Mine are when my hubby doesn't pull his weight and makes me feel undervalued and unappreciated and bloody pissed off and when my kids know how to press every single one of my buttons on days that i just need it to be a little easier...

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teacoffeesomethingsweet · 25/04/2015 15:58

seems that you have quite a lot to deal with just now OP. Hope things get better soon.
Terrible 2 here. This morning DS decided to be against everything and we really needed to go to a few places. By 11 o'clock I was so exhausted trying to deal with yet another tantrum and fed up with people asking me if he is maybe too hot/cold/hungry/tired/whatever else that I actually went to the baby change place at the shopping centre, sat down and cried.

FernGullysWoollyPully · 25/04/2015 16:02

I cry at everything at the moment! I'm 17+1 with number 5 but I don't think its completely hormone related.

I have no practical advice for you but here's some hope it makes you feel better.

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Brewster · 25/04/2015 17:00

Thanks ladies

yeah i am 20 weeks with number 3 which isn't helping.

Hugs to you Tea and Fern too.

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dashoflime · 25/04/2015 17:07

Brewster: what you describe is not trivial! Hope your DH shapes up.

I was sacked from my job just before I had Dd (now 1 month). Every once in a while, when I'm particularly tired or hungry, I remember it and feel like a terrible failure and I have a little cry.

I don't bother mentioning it to Dh anymore as I have been feeling shit about it for so long he has completely run out of supportive things to say and has got bored of having to deal with it.

AntiDistinctlyMinty · 25/04/2015 17:08

I think it's partly the remnants of my bastard PND, but I quite often wobble at the fact that my house always, always looks a mess no matter how hard I try to keep it clean and tidy. I had a good cry this afternoon after I'd spent the morning getting downstairs reasonably tidy, went upstairs to put the washing away, and came down to discover the DS's had completely destroyed the living room and I'd have to tidy and hoover all over again. Sigh.

dashoflime · 25/04/2015 17:09

Oh and at 20 weeks I was crying almost continually at work and that's how I got sacked! So I completely understand how emotionally tough pregnancy can be. Hugs to you OP

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Brewster · 25/04/2015 17:21

Thanks.

This pregnancy has been a worrying one as we had a miscarriage before it so been worried lots with this one.

We were waiting for the 20 week scan to buy anything.The scan was friday so today we went for a celebratory brunch where before we got there my son kept telling us how much he hated where we were going after ordering he kept asking where the food was as he was so hungry, after eating - while no one else had yet finished - all we heard wad how bored he was, when were we leaving etc.

We then went home to drop some stuff off and for me to wee - again! and then we were going shopping - BUT we just got home why are we going out again.... was all we heard from him.

Then once at the shops after he had exhausted looking at all the toys all we got was i'm tired, i'm bored, I'm hungry..

He is nearly 7!! His 3 year old sister didn't cause all this fuss!!

After 20 mins i gave up really pissed off and we came home having bought 1 thing for the baby and not even finishing looking around the shop.

I cried in the car on the way home as i was so disappointed and fed up with him moaning all the time and ruining things!

Was that silly?

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teacoffeesomethingsweet · 25/04/2015 18:00

Not silly at all. AND you're pregnant. Nothing is ever silly when you're pregnant.
Sounds like your son is maybe struggling a bit with the prospect of having another sibling? Or was he just in a bad mood that day?

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Brewster · 25/04/2015 19:19

Thanks Tea.

I dunno - he is often quite a moany child which is hard to deal with.

We have figured out he is worried about moving to a junior school in september so could be that.

I have since had a huge shout at hubby as worried he is not gonna pull his weight when baby is born.

After our first he was totally useless and it destroyed us for a few years.
He was much better with 2nd but i am terrified now of having to deal with three pretty much o my own and going back to feeling all alone and having to do everything singlehandedly.

Maybe i am just being silly and memories of how hard it was the first time and the PND is all coming back and making me so upset but I am truly terrified you know.

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lexyloub · 26/04/2015 07:07

When the children completely ignore me,don't do as they're asked and give cheek. It grinds me down having the same constant battles and I prey for just 1 day for them to be good

HoggleHoggle · 26/04/2015 07:14

When my ds 16 mo bites me. It's really, really painful but it's worse that he knows he's hurting me, he does it when he doesn't get his own way. 9/10 I deal with it calmly like you're meant to but there was one day this week where I had to leave the room and have a cry.

fulltothebrim · 26/04/2015 07:27

hoggle- why leave the room?

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Brewster · 26/04/2015 08:30

oh kitty i feel for you.

They can be such hard hard work can't they and at times very selfish.
Hugs to you xx

Still with all these posts good to know i am not the only one who has kids that don't listen and make you cry...

not that i want anyone to cry mind you but you know what i mean

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Kittymum03 · 26/04/2015 10:29

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Brewster · 26/04/2015 13:57

Kitty - do you mean on here?

I think there is crying and then there is crying.

Kids need to see all emotions and know everyone has them and they are all normal.
I have no problem crying in front of my kids and explaining why i am so upset.
But - i won't have a full on hysterics crying in front of them as that would totally freak them out!

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HoggleHoggle · 26/04/2015 18:48

fulltothebrim sorry for delayed reply...I left the room because as well as having a cry, I also felt I needed to take myself away from the situation. I was being bitten, scratched and pinched and as well as upsetting me, I was also getting to the point of feeling the absolute rage when someone hurts you and won't stop. So I took myself off before I got to that point.

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