dd has started crying when we put her to bed, why...?

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This is the third night we've put her to bed and all she seems to do is straight away, scream and cry. She's fine in herself, and day time naps she's fine, but this is a new thing and I have no idea what is bothering her as we're not doing anything any different to normal. aby suggestions?

Oh and she's just over a year old

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I had this with DS, he was about 14-15mo, but only at nap times. He would just refuse to lie down and scream. Not sure you are having the same issue? It was just a stage, and it passed.

Bedtime routine: bath, story/song, then time to go night nights whilst mummy/daddy strokes your back. Stick to exactly same routine every night, nice and calm and gentle.

Separation anxiety?

I was going to suggest separation anxiety or over / under tired. Has she recently dropped morning nap? Has she maybe cried in the night and you haven't heard her for a bit? How did you respond the first time this happened?

Sorry if all the qs sound a bit accusatory, they're not meant to be :). And one of mine did this for a bit for totally different reasons - when he learnt to walk. I realised he was getting frustrated so we took him out of the sleeping bag so he could pace in circles a bit before going to sleep like a little dog. Why can't they bloody talk eh

Mine did the same at that age!

At 18 months my son experienced a sleep regression. The HV explained it as him starting to realise that I wasn't there to protect him and that's why he didn't want me to leave. Her advice was to go in, comfort him and leave as he calmed down. Repeat until he didn't fuss anymore.

Also good to rule out any other reasons like teething pain, ear ache, etc.

Good luck.

My dd this this at 14/15mo. It lasted 3 weeks and then went back to normal thank god lol xx

My son recently started going through this the past few weeks (he's 22 months). Eventually, after the 3rd day of clinging to me screaming I realised he just wanted the door left open a crack. I leave it open a bit now for his naps, and for when I put him down for bedtime then when I go to bed close it and seems to be the thing that's fixed it.

I finally figured out dh had been cuddling and holding her to sleep I broke that habit Saturday night and she was fine last night so fingers crossed it stays that way.

My dd has been like this since intent back to work in Feb, absolutely no issue at all going to the cm but will not tolerate being separated from me once I pick her up. bedtime has become a complete battle of wills. her routine has been the same since day 1 and at suggestion of hv we have done controlled crying which failed spectacularly, 6 hours of her crying almost constantly and me sitting outside her door going in every 2-3 mins to let her know I was still there and I had to give on because it was heartbreaking, repeat ad nauseum for about 6 weeks

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after that I decided it was pointless, tries sitting on her room and edging away slowly but she thinks it's a game and just gets up and out of bed. her will is greater than mine at silent return so I now resorting to the spare pushchair in her bedroom and offering her one chance to go to bed and then she is strapped into the pushchair and I have to shut the door and walk away. she alternates between crocodile tears, screaming mummy and chatting to herself for about 15-20 mins and then falls asleep. it is the absolute last resort but we are on night 3 of asleep before 8 and having to be woken at 645 where as she was fighting til gone 11pm and then getting up at 5 which meant she was vile all day and then worse that night as she would be over tired