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Seriously, tantrums??

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GlitterTwinkleToes · 20/04/2015 22:27

Seriously, tantrums!! I was hoping that it would start at two and be over and done with in a week Grin

DD is 14 months old, has learnt to climb, usually onto the cupboard and trying to knock the tv off the cabinet. I've moved the cupboard into my bedroom now, but god, she is testing my patience.
She will walk over to the tv, try and reach it. She cant. She will try and climb up - there is nothing there for her to climb (the shelves are hidden by the door).
She throws herself onto the floor, screaming and crying, has head-butted the floor on more than one occasion, her little face goes bright red.
I've tried going near her to pick her up, she's started to head-butt me now and is always bruising me by pinching and biting me. I don't give her no reaction, she will try again. I leave her alone, she'll come walking to me after she realises I'm not there, will bite and pinch me again.
I tell her no it hurts, she laughs and does it again little monkey
Any little thing will set her off, the wrong food, can't find her "baba", the cartoon has finished. Little monkey only does it with me, not to DH. He's seen first hand what she's like, he'll step in and calm her down in seconds. I do the exactly the same, world war three breaks out!
She hates the pushchair, she hates walking, hates being carried, hates being told no! (she copies this and drives me into hysterics pointing her finger shouting no no no Grin)

She's not tired, not ill, not teething just very independent (God help me haha!)

She is way too young for any disciplinary actions and I don't want too do it to her. She's a little madam at times but she's my baby.

Is this relatively normal for tantrums? I thought she was a little young for them or is this going to be the case of me turning grey in the next few years until she out grows them??

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TarkaTheOtter · 20/04/2015 22:31

It is normal I think both mine started at about 12m. Sorry but in my experience it gets worse peaking at about 2.5yrs. My dd still throws the odd tantrum now at 3 but it's very infrequent.

GlitterTwinkleToes · 20/04/2015 22:33

And there was me hoping it would last a week! wishful thinking
Thank you, my "mummy" friends convinced me that it wasn't temper tantrums she was having.

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Shelduck · 21/04/2015 08:42

Poor you! Yes, this is normal. the "terrible twos" is a bit of a misleading term - it does start earlier. But if it's any comfort, we found the tantrums have come and gone in phases.

You say you give DD no reaction when she hits you and i think that's a good idea. My strategy is to remain as calm as i possibly can, ignore the tantrum as much as possible, and basically be really really boring. Then, as soon as DC calms down and starts to behave the way i want him to, be really cheerful and fun.

I also find it helpful to remember that it's ok for DC to get upset -that's a normal part of being a human - and life is incredibly frustrating for a toddler. It's just a case of helping them to learn to control their behaviour when they're upset, and that takes practice.

You say she does it with you but not DH. Are you her main carer? If so, her battle for independence is with you, and not so much other adults. So enjoy having that "special" place in her life! Grin

Good luck!

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Imnotaslimjim · 21/04/2015 08:47

Sorry to say it is perfectly normal. My DD started at 10 months old and only really stopped a couple of years ago at 5. DD was extreme though and we had help and intervention at school. one to one time with a lady that taught her coping strategies when she's feeling angry and ways to calm herself down rather than just scream. It was a difficult time but she's fabulous now, a "proper little character" ahem

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