Tormenting myself with thoughts of a 3rd child..

[luna40]

For the past 2 months I have been thinking daily about having a 3rd child. I already have 2 children (4 & 2), and I'm 30 years old. My heart says YES, I want many many babies! I loved the newborn stage and breastfeeding etc.. but my brain says NO because we would need the bigger house, bigger car, no more family holidays, etc etc. My husband and I would never get any time together, forget finding a babysitter for 3, etc... Ugh I dither back and forth every day between yes and no, and its tormenting me, affecting my work etc. I guess I don't even have a question, just wondering if anyone else is going through this phase!

For me, the jump from 2 to 3 was much harder than the jump from 1 to 2 - sorry!

I think this was mainly because of the personalities of my babies - DC2 was a great sleeper and a chilled out baby, whereas DC3 was a rubbish sleeper and a very 'determined' (!) toddler.

Now they're all at primary school it's great. I agree with Dulra about the third one taking the pressure off the relationship of the older two (even though mine aren't all the same sex). But it was really tough for a few years and I did regret it at times.

I've really enjoyed this discussion ladies, its given me SO much to think about. NaiceNickname I do have the concerns about how a 3rd DC would impact my relationship with DH. I'm a horrible pregnant person, and I think he feels as if he's just getting his wife back after years of no sleep and arguing... and I do worry about the less attention I'd be giving to the other DC adding a third into the mix, but then I love Dulra's perspective of the 2 older ones appreciating 3rd child. I think thats how it would work in our household. Our two right now are really close, because they do everything together, but I think sometimes that constant relying on each other for company does lead to frustrations and arguments.

I tried talking to DH last night about this, but he can only see the cons of having a 3rd. I could make a massive list of Cons. But I've always been one to lead with my heart, and I just feel like theres a space in our family for (at least) one more... I think we're going to take at least another 6 months or so to mull it over :)

we have 7. we go on a family holiday every year I'm not pg/have had a new born

moved to bigger house last year, but had a VW transporter since we had only 2 - so so useful.

people will help with babysitting and we help back. It's not very easy but we make it work.

I hope I don't sound rude but 3 kids is easy peasy!